Hello
Let me start off by saying that I am 39 and my wife is 46. Been married almost 12 years. We both work full time jobs and have 2 kids 7 and 9 years old. Over the last 2-4 years there have been some changes in her behavior. All of the symptoms point to perimenopause. Her moods are changing, sometimes she is very patient and other times she snaps a bit, she is not very happy at work as she has a boss that is making life hard on her, she describes hot flashes, has trouble sleeping etc .
Current household situation is this. I do all of the cooking, we split the cleaning and laundry about 50-50 etc. Last 3-4 weeks she has been worn out when we get home from work ( carpool sometimes) so if there is housework to do I will take care of it while she helps kids with homework etc.
I had been trying to get her to talk to me about what is going on without beating on the menopause drum. About 5-6 weeks ago she opens up and says that she does not know why she is feeling the way she does and she does not understand it herself. She did say that we speed every waking minute with each other and wants some "space", the right after that said that I dont mean split up or divorce. I dont suspect fooling around, I do trust her 100%. If this is perimenopause is it totally possible for a woman to basically just come unraveled and need some time with either herself ?
We have been spending a little less time together lately and if that is what she needs to get herself together then I am ok with it. What can I do to to help her get through this?
Thanks
Let me start off by saying that I am 39 and my wife is 46. Been married almost 12 years. We both work full time jobs and have 2 kids 7 and 9 years old. Over the last 2-4 years there have been some changes in her behavior. All of the symptoms point to perimenopause. Her moods are changing, sometimes she is very patient and other times she snaps a bit, she is not very happy at work as she has a boss that is making life hard on her, she describes hot flashes, has trouble sleeping etc .
Current household situation is this. I do all of the cooking, we split the cleaning and laundry about 50-50 etc. Last 3-4 weeks she has been worn out when we get home from work ( carpool sometimes) so if there is housework to do I will take care of it while she helps kids with homework etc.
I had been trying to get her to talk to me about what is going on without beating on the menopause drum. About 5-6 weeks ago she opens up and says that she does not know why she is feeling the way she does and she does not understand it herself. She did say that we speed every waking minute with each other and wants some "space", the right after that said that I dont mean split up or divorce. I dont suspect fooling around, I do trust her 100%. If this is perimenopause is it totally possible for a woman to basically just come unraveled and need some time with either herself ?
We have been spending a little less time together lately and if that is what she needs to get herself together then I am ok with it. What can I do to to help her get through this?
Thanks