Hello Everyone,
I am new to this forum. i would like to get some help regarding a classic relationship problem i am going through.
I am from India and got married in January 2016. I have not completed even 1 month into marriage and i am facing some issues within my family. The explanation of issues i am going to write may be long!
I lost my father in Nov 2015, my mother was very attached to him and feels very lonely because he is not around.
My marriage is an arrange marriage where parents along with me selected a girl for me, everyone was happy with the girl we had selected and my wife and i had spend 9 months together before we got married. We love each other. As far as i understand my wife she is very respectful for my mother and other relatives.
Problem is that my mother never shares any of her thoughts with my wife. While i am out for work they have no interaction what so ever. Any interaction they have is when they have lunch or some other meal(As told by my wife). Even when i am home on week off do not see much interaction between the too.
In Indian families housewives do all the house work like cleaning cooking etc. My wife do all these things everyday as per expectation and thinking of that as her job. My mother never appreciates her effort, and pin point small mistakes that she does sometimes. My mother tells all the things that happen in home everyday to my sister and also share what she feels what she don't like in wife with her instantly over phone. My mother is cheerful when neighbors who visit our home or when we go to someone else home, but never she shows the same emotions to my wife. My wife is feeling very sad because of these things, she have to spend her time doing nothing whole day because she has no one to talk to, no one to share her thoughts with. My wife as well as i am confused about what wrong is happening because of which my mothers behavior is like this.
I am very afraid of interfering between the two because i think my mother will think that i m biased towards my wife and don't love her anymore which is not true. Also if something goes wrong my relatives will blame me for this and will say that because my father is no more i am trying to be over smart and trying to annoy my mother. My wife feels that i am scared to tell my mother about what is correct and what is not, and that i cannot resolve the things.
I myself is feeling so low because of this, never thought that this will happen so soon in my marriage.
Please help me in helping my mother and my wife to be at least friends with each other, what i can do to solve the situation?
Any help, advice will be much appreciated!!!
Thanks
Ankit
I am new to this forum. i would like to get some help regarding a classic relationship problem i am going through.
I am from India and got married in January 2016. I have not completed even 1 month into marriage and i am facing some issues within my family. The explanation of issues i am going to write may be long!
I lost my father in Nov 2015, my mother was very attached to him and feels very lonely because he is not around.
My marriage is an arrange marriage where parents along with me selected a girl for me, everyone was happy with the girl we had selected and my wife and i had spend 9 months together before we got married. We love each other. As far as i understand my wife she is very respectful for my mother and other relatives.
Problem is that my mother never shares any of her thoughts with my wife. While i am out for work they have no interaction what so ever. Any interaction they have is when they have lunch or some other meal(As told by my wife). Even when i am home on week off do not see much interaction between the too.
In Indian families housewives do all the house work like cleaning cooking etc. My wife do all these things everyday as per expectation and thinking of that as her job. My mother never appreciates her effort, and pin point small mistakes that she does sometimes. My mother tells all the things that happen in home everyday to my sister and also share what she feels what she don't like in wife with her instantly over phone. My mother is cheerful when neighbors who visit our home or when we go to someone else home, but never she shows the same emotions to my wife. My wife is feeling very sad because of these things, she have to spend her time doing nothing whole day because she has no one to talk to, no one to share her thoughts with. My wife as well as i am confused about what wrong is happening because of which my mothers behavior is like this.
I am very afraid of interfering between the two because i think my mother will think that i m biased towards my wife and don't love her anymore which is not true. Also if something goes wrong my relatives will blame me for this and will say that because my father is no more i am trying to be over smart and trying to annoy my mother. My wife feels that i am scared to tell my mother about what is correct and what is not, and that i cannot resolve the things.
I myself is feeling so low because of this, never thought that this will happen so soon in my marriage.
Please help me in helping my mother and my wife to be at least friends with each other, what i can do to solve the situation?
Any help, advice will be much appreciated!!!
Thanks
Ankit