lucky007

I have been trying to deal with major problems surrounding my 18 year old son for years!! Things got so out of control when he was 16 that I had to remove him from my home. He's violent, blames everyone else for his problems, has been verbally abusive to me since he was 14/15 yrs old, and now that he's 18 he still wants me to pay his way through life. I've tried MANY different types of help (the school, Mental Health, Social Services, Councilors, Therapists, Physocologist, various parenting programs) nothing has worked. My husband is a step dad to this child and my 15 year old son. My 15 year old is the opposite to my 18 year old. He's respectful, knows what he wants in life and works for it, follows the rules, and expresses and controls his emotions properly. My husband has been in our lives for 8 years, and we have gone through hell and back in dealing with my oldest son. My husband has spent the past 4 years hating my oldest, which put tremendous strain on our marriage. We have a 3 year old daughter together, and I am currently pregnant. I want to try and move forward into a brighter future with my husband, however; there has been so much damage done over the years that I have a hard time getting close to him. I feel like sex has become a chore. I dislike sleeping next to him as everything about him annoys me, his snoring, loud breathing, letting go gas. I know that the situation that I've gotten myself into has made me depressed for years now, but I don't want to become dependant on medication. I cry all the time (as my 18 year old is still verbally abusive) and I can't share it with my husband. I feel very alone, sad and lost. Not sure how I work on saving my marriage, as the things I used to love about him are all gone

A Bit Much

Where is the 18 year old's father?

Also, I would think that a strained marriage and such negativity surrounding you and your husband would keep you from wanting to have another child. You sound like you can't stand your husband as much as you can't stand your son.