marriageinprogress

Question:

At what age did you start accepting yourself for all the good and for all your imperfections you have? or have you not gotten to that point yet?

I am hoping to get a lot of responses and thoughts
Please share.

Amplexor

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nice777guy

Tough question. I'm 39 now - and I'd say I'm still working on it.

Thought I was pretty happy with "me" - then wife has a MLC or SOMETHING - so I start to wonder how much was "me" v. "her."

I now think it was mostly her - but now that I'm staring divorce in the face - I'm asking NEW questions about myself.

I think its a constant work in progress.

marriageinprogress

As I expected. "Mary Poppins, practically perfect in every way."

sigma1299

I'm 39 to and I have lots of minor issues but I always have - mostly self esteem related. I think it's just part of my wiring and will always be there. I don't beat myself up over it, I just try to understand it and realize that my opinion of myself can be tainted.

I accept myself for what I am, but it doesn't make the deep seated issues or mild depression go away, it just means that I know they are there and have some idea of how to manage them.

HappyAtLast

For me, it's always a work in progress...all of our choices, experiences, environment, etc. mold us into the person we are, for better or worse, so I think it takes a long time to accept yourself, even if you've changed for the better.
Just my 2 cents.

SepticChange

I always did accept myself for the most part. Yeah, here and there I question myself but I never went through a phase where I hated or disliked what I am. Sure, there were moments where I thought one thing or two about me was an inconvenience but otherwise I was always cool about it. But like others have said, work in progress...still getting to the point where I'm 100% comfortable.

marriageinprogress

I agree that self acceptance is a work in progress. I was just curious if anybody had a moment in there life where they learned to accept themselves.. had one of those ah, ha moments!

I tend to be sooo hard on myself, always thinking I can improve and be better. To a certain extent I think it is a good quality but I take it too far.

charlene

There is no such point .... in married woman's life. While in most man's life this point is pretty much since puberty.

sigma1299

Ah if only that were true... A lot of us guys are just good at bluffing.
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AFEH

We’ve to know our self before we can accept it! And as we are constantly changing our self is a moving target. Self awareness is the thing.

charlene

Hope that's true

nice777guy

Oh C'mon! That's not fair! Look how many men here have given totally reasonable answers!

A Bit Much

Something clicked for me when I was about 33. I'm going on 41 in a couple of weeks. But, I've been told I'm an old soul so maybe that has something to do with it. Lived many lifetimes in my short life and all that, and with experiences come wisdom... or at least it should. lol

Sawney Beane

We have a winner!

That said, the rate of change tends to slow (it has in my case anyway), so the target is easier to observe.

For me I had a real moment after I left the Army. I'd done a lot of soul-searching before I did, and the all the inner conflict affected how I thought about myself before I left and immediately after.

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