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I consider myself pretty old fashioned in my ideals, at least where it counts. I don't believe in cheating, playing the scene, thinking 10billion relationships are going to fill the void, and am considered far outside of the norm. No kids, no x wives, not a lot of baggage at all especially for someone my age. My fiancee is the same way, and we hit it off so well from the very first day we met, it was unreal.

It was clear after just the first week, there was something quite unique, something neither one of us have experienced before, nor have we encountered anybody like we have with each other. Literally, during that first week, we felt more like we were resuming a very long standing, established relationship, that we knew each other a very long time, and this has been just utterly unreal.

What is really cool, absolutely everything we have been longing for, we are identical with. My priorities and standards in life are considered not mainstream, and too often I find myself standing alone on many matters, old fashioned ones, where I believe in the value and strength of the family unit, where you don't have to spend money to enjoy each other's company and in general have a lot of fun together with.

What I thought was cool, this had me really caught off guard, she didn't know, nor cared how much wealth, or lack therin I had, that her only focus was upon getting to know each other and no games, no hidden agenda, none what so ever.

I very much think I found my Soul mate, and this is something by far, different then anything I could have imagined.

I'm thinking back now, realizing, we were both waiting for each other exclusively, we were waiting for destiny to unfold, and this very much has.

Timing is the key to all of this, timing for the right place, right time in our lives, and things that seemed like random elements in life have absurdly revealed themselves to be quite ordered and for a purpose, all pointing to make this happen.

I'm realizing now, how rare something like this is these days, how most people settle with someone who is compatible, but not with someone that is most compatible. Struggles most couples face, are a non issue between us, things just naturally fit in place, there is no conflict at all, and as long as we keep communicating, I doubt there ever will be, for we both just want to be there for each other.

Anyway, just a little note here to re-assure those that are looking for that perfect one, they are out there if you allow the timing to work out, otherwise, if you don't want to wait, chances are very likely you'll end up with something that works, but I can tell you this, it's far deeper when you find that one that was meant for you then you can imagine.
 
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What is really cool, absolutely everything we have been longing for, we are identical with. My priorities and standards in life are considered not mainstream, and too often I find myself standing alone on many matters, old fashioned ones, where I believe in the value and strength of the family unit, where you don't have to spend money to enjoy each other's company and in general have a lot of fun together with.
I am very happy for you. I could have written this in the beginning of my relationship too.

One thing i would caution you with is be careful not to assimilate your over zealous elation of compatibility with who she is. She is an individual and her compatibility with you should not be your foundation. Over the years you two will inevitably come to clash on things, so remember to respect her as a totally different person then you, and not as someone who is like you.
 
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I agree with you if it's any consolation, what is different, we keep saying the same things at the same time, it's actually hard to find differences, believe me, I'm looking for them and totally agree with you on each as an individual. There is a great deal of things she has never been exposed to, so in a way, I fully expect her to find her own unique, individual interests and perspectives outside of mine and in fact, it's encouraged.

At the same time, having her and I function as a team together, we can accompolish things in a very big way with minimal conflict while we attain our goals.
 
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