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Old 10-04-2011, 07:29 PM   #1 (permalink)
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My fiance and i have always had a great loving relationship and the only time we would ever fight was when he would accuse me of cheating and i never have and i never understood why he would always accuse me out of no where and it always made me wonder cause he has alot of female friends at work but he always told me not to worry cause they are older women but ive met a few who were our age, we had an argument one day so i took our 2 daughters to the park so that the fight didnt get bad and when i came home he had packed his things and left and its been almost 3 months i want him back so much and he tells me he loves me but he says he doesnt feel a connection with me and he does want to be with me just not till he feels that connection again what do i do? how are we supposed to build that connection again if we arnt together??? i still feel a connection with him tho. And we have talked and ive told him how much i love him and how we just need to work things out together but he always gets mad if i try to talk about us getting back together until i tell him to just leave me alone if hes just going to play games with me then all of the sudden he wants to talk and try to work things out and when we try to talk he gets mad again. im so lost i dont no what to do can anyone help me??
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Old 10-04-2011, 11:19 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I smell a cheater.
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Old 10-05-2011, 11:26 AM   #3 (permalink)
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If someone is acussing you of cheating over and over again it's normally because they are guilty. So are you sure he didn't do anything? You are right if it's a connection issue then you have to be around eachother to fix it and get it back. Sounds like he was trying to play games until you called him out. So now the ball is in yur court. Sit down and have a up front and honest conversation.
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well we always spent time together when he would come home from work he would always want to love on me and spend time with me and if he was cheating wouldnt he have lost interest with me??? and i have asked him if hes been with anyone else and hes denied it but even if he was i dont think he would tell me tho.
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Old 10-05-2011, 12:24 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Dude is playing with you. He's just making excuses up for wanting out. First, he accuses you of cheating, then he gets in a fight, packs his bags and leaves and has been gone 3 months now and is giving you teh BS line of "I love you but I don't feel connected" AND worse, keeps you on a string "just in case" his feelings 'do' come back.

Listen up an dlisten well: a man shows you how he feels through his actions.

Words can be pretty and beautiful but TALK is cheap. How is he acting? He's been gone 3 months & has made zero committment to you in that time. Oh, he does feed you nice words but he doesn't back it up.

So my advice is to tell him "It's been 3 months. Either you feelin ga connection or you don't. I will not put my life on hold for you. You walked out on me and abandoned me and I deserve better than that."

File for support and let him go.

He's a little boy who isn't even man enough to tell you how he really feels and strings you along instead.
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Old 10-05-2011, 03:21 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Dude is playing with you. He's just making excuses up for wanting out. First, he accuses you of cheating, then he gets in a fight, packs his bags and leaves and has been gone 3 months now and is giving you teh BS line of "I love you but I don't feel connected" AND worse, keeps you on a string "just in case" his feelings 'do' come back.

Listen up an dlisten well: a man shows you how he feels through his actions.

Words can be pretty and beautiful but TALK is cheap. How is he acting? He's been gone 3 months & has made zero committment to you in that time. Oh, he does feed you nice words but he doesn't back it up.

So my advice is to tell him "It's been 3 months. Either you feelin ga connection or you don't. I will not put my life on hold for you. You walked out on me and abandoned me and I deserve better than that."

File for support and let him go.

He's a little boy who isn't even man enough to tell you how he really feels and strings you along instead.
he never acted like that till i got pergnant with our 2nd daughter and when i went to have her he was mad at me cuz he accused the dr of flirting with me and he kept tell in me when we got home that he would trust me cuz he nos that i havent done anything to make him think that i was cheating and since weve been apart he is always txting this other girl that he says is just his friend and wuts worse is that shes 17 and hes 21 and ive read some of the things shes said to him and shes definatly flirting and he says that he doesnt flirt back and he nos i dont like it but he still talks to her and he tells me he hasnt been with anyone else and he isnt seeing anyone else and hes always askin me who comes over here and if iv flirted with anyone else and i tell him no cuz i dont and i havent plus i dont have time for anything besides working and taking care of my kids when he left i didnt have a job id just had our second daughter so i was left with our 2 kids alone in our house that i got kicked out of cuz i couldnt pay rent i had to move back in with my mother and i now share a room with both my kids it doesnt bother me but our 2 year old is always askin me where is daddy and when i tell him how she wakes up crying at night and asking for daddy and how when he has them for a few days and then they come home and she is angry and throws tantrums and screams and cries he calls me a liar and i had told him if he gets with someone else my daughters are not allowed around her and he got pissed and said so the only way i can see my kids is by being with u and i said no but i will not have my kids around another woman and he said that if he got married to another woman that he would take me to court but with that said he told me that he didnt want them around another man and i said ok thats fine and he told me that b4 i told him i didnt want them around another woman
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That "just a friend" is prob someone he's cheating with.

Like the others told you, the one who accuses a lot of times is the one cheating.

File for child support and let him go. He's already gone.
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That "just a friend" is prob someone he's cheating with.

Like the others told you, the one who accuses a lot of times is the one cheating.

File for child support and let him go. He's already gone.
its just so hard he left less than 2 weeks after our anniversary and 1 month b4 our wedding day is there no possible way for me to get him back or build that connection back??
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Why do you want to be withs omeobody who's treating you as he is?

Your self-esteem is low, dear. Plealse regain your dignity. If he wanted to be with you, he would be.

He has not treated you right. Acknowledge this. Does this relationship bring you more pleasure than pain? My bet is no.

Check it: Never chase after a dog that is running away from you.
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the thing is i was happy very happy the happiest id ever been its just since hes beein gont that ive been miserable
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