YupItsMe

There are three kinds of men

1. Those that meet only the companionship needs of women
2. Those that meet only the primal needs of women
3. Those that meet both

#1 Will ultimately bore his wife all the way to divorce court
#2 Will ultimately neglect his wife all the way to divorce court
#3 Will have a long successful marriage unless ...

He or his wife has unresolved issues having little to do with the marriage such as substance abuse, mental illness, intolerable eccentricities or weak morals

Reading thru largely repetitious posts about a busted relationship, its rather easy to pin point either 1 or 2 or both is now missing. Then its a matter of recommending the well known solutions for one or the other.

Then the unresolved issues throw in a monkey wrench to the well worn plan to fix 1 or 2 or both.

Enjoy

that_girl

I think it's a constant work-in-progress to find that happy balance.

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Lon

From my perspective that is actually a very concise and accurate summary. I definitely relate to #1 - hey whatdyaknow I'm #1 for once!

stayathomemomandwife

I've had the complete package before so I know it exists and how wonderful it is. However, that's not who I'm with. Now... to accept? try to change? get out? hmmm.....

that_girl

Time for growth. Time to reevaluate. Time to improve. Time to accept Life and decide if it's what you want.

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NoIssues

Exactly. If you are a man and your marriage is busted its 1 or 2 unless your wife is nuts.

Figure it out and get busy fixing it.

Runs like Dog

Nonsense and balderdash. My wife I know essentially doesn't like me in any way. Would she ever divorce me? Never. Not in a million years. Why? 1) that would require to own a problem and do something about it. 2) it would reduce enormously the things that make her miserable.

NoIssues

Hence the exceptions and qualifiers you failed to take to heart

nice777guy

But to Runs point, there are also different types of women.

Men don't exist in a vacuum.

F-102

Hmmm...seems like once again, it is up to the MAN to make the marriage work and do the heavy lifting. Once again, if the wife is unhappy or leaves, it is all the MAN's fault.

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Triumph

Deffinately a Type 2 kinda guy.

If my wife had a penis, Id say she was a Type 1 guy.

That equals 3, right?

Almostrecovered

It's an oversimplication, and by doing that you don't get to real understanding
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Wheels65

You can't simply lump all people/men/women/marriages into 3 categories...that's illogical and not all people have the same needs or degrees of needs.

NoIssues

If you dont meet the companionship and primal needs of whatever type of woman you are in a relationship with, your relationship will noticeably diminish over time to reflect the missing need.

The stated premise is not effected by the type of woman that is not having her needs met unless she meets one of the disaqualifiers mentioned by the OP.

If you fail as a man to meet one of those two needs its not going to last regardless of the type of woman you are with.

NoIssues

No you are reading your baggage into the view expressed.

It is the mans fault if he does not meet the companionship or primal needs of his wife. If he does, it can work over the long haul. If not, it cant.

That is not to say its a mans fault always. It is only to say it is a mans fault if he fails in those two ways. Women need both or their interest will fade over time.

This is not a discussion about what is required of a woman. Thats a different topic.