We have been married for 16 years. My second marriage and her first. My first marriage ended after three years due to an affair she had.
We have had a lot of problems over the years. Fighting fairly often. But the one I want to address for now is my concern she is cheating. About ten or so years ago I was sitting on the couch one day and her cell was beside me. It lite up with a tell and just as I was about to tell her I saw I love you on it. You now what I did next. She said it was P. P was her ex high school sweetheart of several years. Someone I also had to issues of her talking with as long as it was up front.
She is still best friends with his sister and she used to go over to her moms house when she still lived there. P would be there sometimes and that was fine with me. Not the jealous type. However, trust is important to me. Some see those two things as the same. I do not.
I never had any proof of what happened other than the text. I accepted her story that is was a poem he had written years ago and had lost it. That is what he could remember and wanted to know the rest. She said she continued talking with him becuase they never had closure.
Though I moved on with her it was never quite the same for me. Fast forward to a few months back. I get to noticing at a concert while we are standing she is getting text with no name. She would quickly open the phone so it disappeared but answered other friends. Instead of saying anything I waited and watched. Stating a couple of times along the way that I thought is was odd she never put names to people. She waved it of and went on. Then one night on the couch with the usual turn away the phone move I couldn't stand it anymore and took it. Nothing in it you won't say to a friend but she is smart enough to delete. She claimed it was P again. I couldn't believe she would do that again.
Still I didn't leave wanting it to be like she said. Of course by now I can't take my eyes of her phone now when I get the chance. A coupe weeks ago she put the name paynus anus on her phone and said it was J when I asked. Then later it was Z. Then is was L. That was it again. Once again she did not willing give me the phone. Once again she deleted before I could or at least had the opportunity and gave me her story. To add to this I was off work for 5 weeks during June and July. She works weekends and is off on weekdays. She when several places. Place she normally tells me she goes. Thing is I was never invited to go and waved it off when I asked. I already had trust issues with her among other things not included here. Not sure I can get passed it all. Ready to say goodbye. I am being to parinoid due to the past? Just not sure what to do.