Wife wears clothing that is too revealing
My wife is very small chested and she wears a bra to try to hide this fact. However, with many of the shirts she wears recently, all she need do is bend over slightly, or move her arm a certain way, and there is nothing left to wonder, you can see everything. I have issues with this and have tried to talk to her about it repeatedly. Every time I try to talk to her about this, she reacts badly and says things like, "I could understand your being upset if I had anything to show" or "I don't like feeling like I am being told what to wear.", and the one that irritates me most, "you should trust that if some guy tries to pick up on me I will walk away." I am not trying to dictate what my wife wears. I am not afraid that some guy is going to see her chest and try to run off with her. I try to be very open and honest with my wife and talk to her about my feelings. I know I have issues, however I try to be honest and open with myself and my wife, no matter how painful, so that we are not hurt by jealousy, insecurity, or any other issues. I work on this daily and I talk to my wife whenever I have a problem with something. I let her know how I feel and I absolutely do not try to dictate her life. I do not feel that my wife has been unfaithful and do not feel she will be. A couple of weeks ago, she bought another of those shirts and when she came home from work, I noticed it wasn't hiding anything. I did not say anything to her, however, she caught my look and the next day, when she came home from work, she showed some kind of fabric that is designed to clip to her bra strap and act like a t-shirt that she bought while on her lunch break. I was elated!!!! She did not do this because of a fight or argument. She did not do this at my request or because she had to. She did it because she finally understood that it hurt me that she continued to wear the style shirts that she has been wearing. She finally got it and found a way to compromise. Only, she has not once worn one of those fabrics since. She still wears the shirts, but no effort to wear the fabric. Late last week, she again wore one of the shirts without the fabric, and when she was ready to leave for work, she came into the living room where I was drinking a cup of coffee and though I did not say a word, because a look apparently flashed across my face, she snapped on me. We had an argument and she accused me of trying to tell her how to dress, of not trusting her, etc. She stormed off to work and when she came home, she tried to act as if everything was normal. This argument had a very bad impact on me and I have not been able to get it out of my head. I know it is wrong to try to dictate her life to her. I know that she is entitled to live her life however she sees fit. However, she knows this bothers me, she knows that when she bought those clip on things that it made me happy. Then she chose not to actually wear them, and then when I had the audacity to actually be bothered by these facts and have a thought, snap on me. I can't stop thinking that now I am the one being controlled. I can't help feeling that I am the one being told, do it my way or it is the highway. I have been mulling all of this over in my head for a few days and yesterday she asked me what was on my mind. It had been a few days, but I was still angry and hurt and did not feel like I could talk to her right then, I need more time to sort out my thoughts so I could be rational and make sense. She kept pushing me and got angry, and knowing me the way she does, pushed all of the right buttons and I unloaded on her. I told her how she made me feel by continually discounting my feelings and on and on. She of course reacted badly and we had a fight like we have not had in years. It got so bad that I told her I wanted a divorce, and though I do not and don't know why the h3ll I said it, I did. I apologized to her for my reaction to her reaction, however I told her I could not apologize for my feelings. We talked for a while and though the hurt is going to be there for a while I am sure, I think the result of the argument will pass. It is very clear to me, however, that she still does not understand where I am coming from and will not as she sees this as my problem, not hers. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can make her understand, or should I just walk away. I love my wife and we have children. However, the few times we have had a major hurdle, I have conceded and found a way to cope with whatever that hurdle was- usually because I accepted that I am reacting badly to something, not the other way around. However, I can not and will not continue this way.