Hi everyone,
It's been awhile since I've been here. I guess I'm what might be considered a TAM success story. Managed to turn my marriage around (with help from you guys) after a 6 yr completely sexless spell and getting the old ILYBINILWY speech. Sex has cooled slightly from the 5 days/wk at the beginning of our reconciliation to a very regular 2-3 x's per week with him initiating about half the time. I'd like 4-5 x's per week but I'm OK with what we have now. He's attentive, does chores around the house without being asked and gropes me multiple times a day.:smthumbup: We are better to each other and I've learned to change (or significantly curb) behaviors that drive him away. And I've learned what sort of behaviors bring him closer to me. It's been a year and a half since we started having sex again and rediscovering each other.
Great right? Well, he has yet to tell me he loves me. :scratchhead: And I don't tell him anymore because he doesn't respond in kind, and it just makes me feel like crap when he doesn't. Why do I feel this intense need to have him verbalize it? And why won't he? Part of me wants to just come out and ask point blank if he loves me.
Or do I just need to get over this and be happy that I have an sexy, attentive husband who's actions seem to say that he does love me again? It's just a word after all.
It's been awhile since I've been here. I guess I'm what might be considered a TAM success story. Managed to turn my marriage around (with help from you guys) after a 6 yr completely sexless spell and getting the old ILYBINILWY speech. Sex has cooled slightly from the 5 days/wk at the beginning of our reconciliation to a very regular 2-3 x's per week with him initiating about half the time. I'd like 4-5 x's per week but I'm OK with what we have now. He's attentive, does chores around the house without being asked and gropes me multiple times a day.:smthumbup: We are better to each other and I've learned to change (or significantly curb) behaviors that drive him away. And I've learned what sort of behaviors bring him closer to me. It's been a year and a half since we started having sex again and rediscovering each other.
Great right? Well, he has yet to tell me he loves me. :scratchhead: And I don't tell him anymore because he doesn't respond in kind, and it just makes me feel like crap when he doesn't. Why do I feel this intense need to have him verbalize it? And why won't he? Part of me wants to just come out and ask point blank if he loves me.
Or do I just need to get over this and be happy that I have an sexy, attentive husband who's actions seem to say that he does love me again? It's just a word after all.