My wife and I have been married for ten years and together for 15. We have a three year old son.
Throughout our relationship, she has NEVER initiated sex. I used to ask her to do this, but I gave up years ago when it became clear this would never happen. I understand that some people have stronger sexual appetites than others and I've always tried to respect her feelings on this.
For the last few years, whenever I try to initiate sex, she often sighs or grunts as if I have just asked her to wash the dishes. Some of this I am sure is due to having a child and the fact that we both work. But this happened even before our son was born. For the record, I am very athletic, with a good face and body.
Her disinterest in me extends outside of the bedroom, too. Frequently when I come home from work, I find her on the couch watching a reality show, and she won't even look up to acknowledge I've come home. I'm not looking for a blow job at the door, but literally, I enter, say hello and she will mumble hello without making eye contact.
Most of our friends would never believe this about her, because in public she is considerate, charming, possibly even over-friendly. She will do anything to appear polite for friends and strangers often at sacrifice to herself (and me). However, when it is just the two of us, she seldom makes any attempt to be sociable. Most of our conversations are detail oriented about our son or home, etc. Sometimes I feel we are business partners rather than husband and wife.
I've asked her point blank if she has lost interest in me and she assures me this is not the case.
I don't drink more than a few times a month and never to excess, I'm not abusive, verbally or physically, I'm very affectionate, frequently compliment her on her appearance. I help around the house. I'm very involved with our son. Most people find me very charming and funny.
Is this just ten years of marriage? Parenthood? What went wrong?
Throughout our relationship, she has NEVER initiated sex. I used to ask her to do this, but I gave up years ago when it became clear this would never happen. I understand that some people have stronger sexual appetites than others and I've always tried to respect her feelings on this.
For the last few years, whenever I try to initiate sex, she often sighs or grunts as if I have just asked her to wash the dishes. Some of this I am sure is due to having a child and the fact that we both work. But this happened even before our son was born. For the record, I am very athletic, with a good face and body.
Her disinterest in me extends outside of the bedroom, too. Frequently when I come home from work, I find her on the couch watching a reality show, and she won't even look up to acknowledge I've come home. I'm not looking for a blow job at the door, but literally, I enter, say hello and she will mumble hello without making eye contact.
Most of our friends would never believe this about her, because in public she is considerate, charming, possibly even over-friendly. She will do anything to appear polite for friends and strangers often at sacrifice to herself (and me). However, when it is just the two of us, she seldom makes any attempt to be sociable. Most of our conversations are detail oriented about our son or home, etc. Sometimes I feel we are business partners rather than husband and wife.
I've asked her point blank if she has lost interest in me and she assures me this is not the case.
I don't drink more than a few times a month and never to excess, I'm not abusive, verbally or physically, I'm very affectionate, frequently compliment her on her appearance. I help around the house. I'm very involved with our son. Most people find me very charming and funny.
Is this just ten years of marriage? Parenthood? What went wrong?