Well, here's my update. I just flippin got dumped. He told me he loved me Friday morning and then found a new love over the weekend. Now who's the one who has issues? He's madly in love with this person the same way he was madly in love with me less than a month ago. Is it really so bad to guard your heart a little and get to know a person before you declare you are madly in love with them? I don't love flippantly. Now I'm the one who is hurting. Life is going to turn me cynical after all.
How do you know he was telling the whole truth. Maybe he had been dating her longer than that. Or maybe he knew her through other means, church, work, social circles, so have known her for a long time and started to see her romantically......at a time when you dumped him.
I'm starting to see patterns in today's dating which is why this message board exists....because while dating has changed, the essence of a married relationship has not.
You told this guy that you were not ready for something serious. Wow, haven't I read that somewhere before. My bf was caught up in a relationship like that before he met me.....Can spouses have friends of the opposite sex...
Then when my bf lessened his contact with her she became more ardent and particularly so after he told her that he started dating someone else.......actually about 4 weeks after our first date to be exact (so after 6 dates and the first time that we had sex). Could your guy have been sitting on the same kind of info.
This woman then tried to present herself as just a friend and than as just a confidant to be able to spend more time with him particularly while I was away.
So this woman "who was not looking for anything serious" and who also told him that she was doing OLD, then decided to accuse him of leading her on; and when that didn't work, decided to tell my bf about a guy with whom she had been on 2 dates who was by then "really into her." She suggested that my bf and she should get back together again so that she won't lead this guy on. And then of course, she attacked me directly by advising my bf to drop me because, in her opinion, our relationship was not advancing quickly enough........
In some ways, your relationship hit a raw nerve with me. Had you noticed that this guy was calling you less and therefore, you became more interested in him? Maybe something you neglected to tell us? Were you perhaps noticing things on his FB wall that made you think you were missing something?
****I miss what I thought I had with him. I've dated two dozen men since him and not a one has even come close.****
All I can say is, wow.......You managed to find time to date 24 different men.......in how many months was that? Maybe you should spend time just developing friendships and a social circle. And to be on the safe side, try to developing friendships with other women.