I have been "seeing" a guy for several months now. Both of us are not long out of our previous long term relationships, and I made it clear from the beginning that I wanted to take things slow and "just be friends."
He agreed at first, but I had to get upset with him on two separate occasions because he was pushing so hard for a "relationship." He is super sweet, loving, caring, funny, sensitive, and basically an all around great person. But I was still dealing with getting over my previous relationship and had hangups. After this most recent "getting onto him about slowing things down" he did just that, which was wonderful.
Fast forward about a month, and lo and behold, I'm starting to get real feelings for him. I'm scared of them, because I was burned pretty badly in my last relationship. But they are there and I can't deny myself them.
I finally opened up and told him about them a couple days ago. I thought he would be happy, because that's what he's been asking me for. And wouldn't you know it.......he says he doesn't know what he feels.
He says he still loves me, and still feels "in love" with me, but he thinks I don't have my heart in my feelings. I asked him what I could do to show him and he said he couldn't tell me because then he would know I was just going through the motions.
I REALLY feel for him and can see us having a future together. Things are a little crazy as far as our situations both go (it would have to be a LDR for the time being, and I HATE those....but he's worth it.) But now I'm scared that I've waited too long, messed things up between us, etc. I don't want to lose him as a friend or a companion, or a lover either.....because to be honest, he's the only man I have ever met that is wonderful at all 3.
I can't read his mind though.......and this is the first time the entire time we've known each other that our communication is lacking. We've both said we never want that to be a problem because it played a major role in both our previous relationships crumbling.
Advice? Please? I'm at a loss!