Confused and Lost

Kat_88 · 12-18-2008, 09:27 PM

hi there. im new to this so please bare with me.

im 20 years old and i have been with my fionce for 4 years and i love him to bits. however in the first year of the relationship he cheated on me with a girl who i knew. i didnt know her well but i knew of her as we both happend to go to the same dance school. i was very youg at this stage and neive but i loved my partner with all my heart and pushed the signs to the side. cutting a very long story short he came out and told me the whole story and i forgave him. well at least i thaught i did. it has been almost 3 years since that had happend but i can not move on from it.he has done everything in his power to keep me happy and make up for his mistake but i can not get it out of my head. it hurts me to know the person i gave my everthing to hurt me so much. i dont know whether i should just let it go and move on? or keep dwelling on the ' what ifs'. what im asking is some advice on how to make the thaughts go away and how to not let it destory my relationship.i know this mite sound soooo dumb n stupid but i just need some reasuance that i can get threw some thing like this. Thankyou

T.O.girl · 12-19-2008, 03:38 AM

hey, i see ur dilemma is almost like mine. you should give him a second chance, since he's trying really hard. but u should take ur time before u marry him u still very young

Amplexor · 12-19-2008, 08:12 AM

I assume your fiancé is about your age and he made a mistake in his teens. While cheating whenever in an exclusive relationship is always wrong, people do make mistakes. If he came out and told you on his own for the good of the relationship that is a very good sign of remorse and honesty. If you don’t suspect he has done it again or will do it again then let it go, forgive him and move forward with your relationship. I agree with T/O. Girl, you are very young, take some time before you get married and make sure this is laid to rest for you both. Good luck.

Kat_88 · 12-19-2008, 09:45 PM

Thanks alot guys you put a smile on my face. hes only 3 yrs older than me. but your both right. thankyou

draconis · 12-20-2008, 12:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Amplexor

I assume your fiancé is about your age and he made a mistake in his teens. While cheating whenever in an exclusive relationship is always wrong, people do make mistakes. If he came out and told you on his own for the good of the relationship that is a very good sign of remorse and honesty. If you don’t suspect he has done it again or will do it again then let it go, forgive him and move forward with your relationship. I agree with T/O. Girl, you are very young, take some time before you get married and make sure this is laid to rest for you both. Good luck.

draconis