I have been happily married for 4 years. We are in our 40's. I have lost some weight in the past few years and with that I have lost my breast size. I was only like a B size to begin with but went down to about an A. Still have some, but small. I make up for lack of breast in the butt, trust me Anyways, my question is, do men really care? I am a bit insecure about it. When we watch movies and see naked women, I wonder if he is thinking I should look lie that? Or wishes I had breasts like that? He says I am perfect. But??? I know I posted a similar question, but didn't put my reasoning behind it. Thanks!
Agree. I've never been a boob guy myself. I've never looked at a woman and thought, "She's nice, if only her boobs were a little larger."
I couldn't care less.
Everybody's different. Personally, I like A cup breasts. No idea why, just do. Bigger boobs are fine, too, of course, so I suppose I don't really care one way or the other. But I definitely have a visual preference for small ones...
Some men just get fixated on big boobs because that's what we're told is ideal.
In the end, though, boobs are generally something that most men couldn't give a rats behind about.
It's much like how many women like washboard abs and a muscular chest. But how many of you only date or marry men with them? I think we feel the same way about boobs. We have our preferences (big OR small) but we don't specifically date or marry women who only have boobs that are OUR preference.
Is your husband your physical ideal? I doubt it, but I imagine you're still attracted to him. So there's your answer.
You are perfect to him and that's what matters. If a guy was interested in a big breasted women that's what he would pursue. This one loves you for what you are.
I spent way too many years thinking I was too small (exH didn't really help with oogling big ones). Come to find out what all these guys care about is who is attached to them and if they can touch them. Now I have bigger ones (so's everything else though) and don't care one way or the other about them.
I'm with everyone else here, It depends on the guy. I've had a lot of friends that prefer big, and just as many that prefer small and just as many still that don't care one way or another (me I prefer small by the way, I'll take small and firm over big and saggy any day).
You say you were a B cup before which is already a little on the smaller side and your husband was happy then so chances are he is one of those that prefer small. losing weight and going down to a smaller size is unlikely to bother him in the slightest and as others have said he is probably happy with the weight loss and the effort to look good. If he is saying enthusiastically that you're fine than take him at his word, if he is more like shrugging of the question and being evasive than maybe it is bothering him a bit. Either way it is his issue to deal with. his attraction to you and his love for you shouldn't be dependant on your breast size and I highly doubt that it is.
Honestly who cares what the guy thinks. He obviously loves you and loves your body. I have very small breasts and it bothers me. My husband doesn't care but I do. So I am going to get breast implants, not huge just a big B for my own self esteem. My husband can tell me I'm sexy and he loves my boobs but the bottom line is I don't love my boobs. Life is too short to be unhappy and insecure about a body part. It seems like it's in your head, not his. If you don't think you can get over it then get implants.
Honestly who cares what the guy thinks. He obviously loves you and loves your body. I have very small breasts and it bothers me. My husband doesn't care but I do. So I am going to get breast implants, not huge just a big B for my own self esteem. My husband can tell me I'm sexy and he loves my boobs but the bottom line is I don't love my boobs. Life is too short to be unhappy and insecure about a body part. It seems like it's in your head, not his. If you don't think you can get over it then get implants.
I know it's a "for you" type of thing, but if it doesn't bother your husband, and (theoretically) you shouldn't care what other men think AND you're seeing, just in this thread alone, that most men don't care (and many prefer small breasts), then what's in it for you?
I'm not a woman, so I can't speak as one, but you've fallen prey to the societal pressures of "looking like a woman" (whatever that means...). Where the reality is that everybody, male or female, comes in every different shape and size imaginable. Having a breast augmentation just conforms to this supposed ideal of what somebody's "supposed" to look like.
I was only like a B size to begin with but went down to about an A. Still have some, but small. I make up for lack of breast in the butt, trust me Anyways, my question is, do men really care? I am a bit insecure about it.
This, too many women and men look for validation. OMG do I still have it where guys will notice so that I will feel good. And now we know why so many women & men come in with stories it started so innocently with the OM/OW saying things to stroke their egos.
Well my husband doesn't say I have a great body, look good, etc...Ummm, if he's still rocking your world, that's how he's telling you and vice versa with women. Put the vanity away for a second and enjoy life with your spouse.
Now, if your spouse says, OMG those shrank to nothing, get a boob job. Kick him in the nuts and pull up the biggest toy dildo on the internet and tell him why doesn't he get surgery to match that size. If he gets all butt hurt, tell him it's the same as him telling you to get a boob job.
I've had reason to analyze this a lot recently, so here's my opinion:
My ex had terrible breast. Worst ive ever seen size and shape. But I loved her, I got used to them, and wouldn't have changed a thing.
Also, her breasts were very sensitive and she loved to have them played with during sex, which I enjoyed greatly. She gave all kinds of good feedback during, which I loved. Those breasts were my key to anytime sex, lol.
Now, my gf has FABULOUS natural breasts. But she doesn't give a lot of feedback and virtually never let's me know she likes anything I do other than telling me.
Also, it's really rare, I'm my opinion, to have both large and shapely breasts. Shape trumps size for me EVERY time.
My conclusion:
My favorite breasts are shapely and sensitive and want to be touched.
Size-- not really a factor whatsoever.
Side note: she got a boob job within two months of separating. She had to show them to me and had me feel them. They looked awful. And I am ashamed I didn't tell her I didn't care to see.yet another way she mind f'ed me.... Posted via Mobile Device
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