My pastor was officiating the wedding and said I wasn't the only one from my small group not invited and listed some people in our small group that werent invited but they don't go to small group regurarly or are new to the group (with th exception of this one guy). This was before the wedding happened. So he had access to the guest list? Why would he know the guest list? And after I saw the pictures I messaged him saying I saw all the girls from small group in the pictures and... thats when he listed these people from our small group that werent invited but who dont come very often or are new (except for the one guy).That doesnt matter to me because I have been going regularly, Im a girl and have been going for a long time and I was the only one out of the group of girls that goes regurarly that isnt new that was not invited. That is what makes me feel like there is something wrong with me because I was the only girlone out of the core group not invited, like do they have something against me or does somebody else in the group have something against me and they wanted them there and didnt want them feeling uncomfortable around me? I dont know
I want you to pretend you only have a limited number of fvckz to give. Like money, do you want to waste all these fvckz while you are young, leaving you with no fvckz left to give when you are old?
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I'm probably crazy, but not being invited to something never bothered me. Unless I'm having issues, I'm obviously going to be invited to family or best friends events, but outside of that, I don't care. It's just one more thing I don't have to give attention to. I never care if I "don't" get a graduation announcement from someone.
Are these people your best friends? Do you hang out all the time?
I'm sure it does hurt to feel excluded. But, you are an adult, not a child. Adults can apply reason and ration. It's reasonable that the guest list HAS to draw a line somewhere. It's rational that you might have been on stand by, meaning they wanted to invite you and hoped that cousin Bob would decline so that they could invite you but he didn't so they couldn't. Can you not see how difficult it is to maintain a guest list that they can afford to entertain?
You asked if there might be something wrong with you. Maybe you're too sensitive and it irritates the bride? Maybe you take things too personally and other people get tired of walking on egg shells so your feelings don't get hurt. Maybe? Maybe not, only you can know if this fits.
Resiliency is what you reach for. Resiliency is what allows you to take the lumps that life throws at you and not get bruises. Everyone experiences hurt and pain, everyone. Can you be open, friendly and gracious even though this kinda hurt? Yes, you can. Fake it till you make it.
One less wedding gift to buy.
One more evening you have to enjoy YOUR favorite activity.
One less person you have to feel obligated to invite to your event.
You should just be happy for the person and not worry about it. Everyone didn't like Jesus, it's a cinch you're not going to be liked by everyone. I worry little about what acquaintances think, and put my efforts into worrying about what the people that truly care about me think.
Don't let a lack of an invitation define your self image. You're giving way too much power to one person.
It easily could have been an accident.
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I would think its they who have a problem. Church's can be very political or groupy. Pastors are like anything else. There are good ones and bad one. Find another.
This chick posts stuff like this EVERYwhere on the board. It's always something about something someone at church did or said or didn't do or bought or didn't buy or something she thinks they thought..........it's like, gag me with a SPOON
. I've reported her posts but apparently she's allowed to continue.
It seems like she might be changing her username, though.
Idk, personally, I do a little victory dance everytime I can avoid going to a wedding. I'm happy to NOT be invited. Although, I do enjoy free food.
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