Re: Quick question.
I say, don't beat yourself up for thinking of one strike and you are out. I think it's the betrayal more than the sex. I also think it doesn't matter what the "cheater" wants to do, or wants from you. Their wants don't count....not for a long time, if ever.
When my ex walked out he said "I never cheated on you and I love you, but I just can't do this life anymore." (no idea if this is true or not) but I told him "It really doesn't matter. You don't want this life, and nothing you say will ever matter. And your love isn't worth anything. Period" I'm pretty sure that was the end of any serious conversations with him, ever.