How can I talk to my husband?
We have been together for 11 years and we have the exact same fights over and over and over. We both have problems with each other, and I think we have a disconnect somewhere, and I just don't know how to get through to him. Some of the issues that he wants me to change are just not "changeable". For example, I'm an emotional person - I wear my heart on my sleeve and I get my feelings hurt easily. When we fight, I cry. I can't really help it, that's how I am. I also talk a lot, sometimes he's fine with it, other times it drives him batty. How can I be faulted for that...I have been that way for our entire relationship.
On the other hand, some of the issues that I have with him he just chooses not to change, such as using a word or phrase that he knows offends me or hurts my feelings. I have asked him to "try" a little harder to actually show that he cares about me or to initiate sex, which normally I have to do. Usually after a fight, it will change for a few days or a week, but then it goes right back to the way it was.
Why can't I get through to him? How can I make him understand that there are certain things that you just can't expect a person to change? Am I wrong for thinking this way?