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Old 10-25-2011, 09:24 PM   #61 (permalink)
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I'm LOLing at all this sex rank stuff. How does one know where they rank?
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Old 10-25-2011, 10:32 PM   #63 (permalink)
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But I just read in the website you mentioned...that a male 3 married to a female 6 will have other men (higher ranked of course) "brazenly approach the wife for a relationship".

This site suggests that for a successful relationship, 2's should pair up with other 2,'s, 3's with 3's and so on. Do you really believe this?
Yes, I do. These are important factors in a complex world. I think that it is a shades of gray world as well. This is an all else equal thing.

So who does the QB of the high school footbal team date?

Latter in life a highly educated woman is more likely to be attracted to that VP than the guy who changed her cars oil.
Now if the giuy who changes the oil is especailly hot she may play with him for a while while she looks to trade up.

Probabilty.

I believe it is a range. It is also in the eye of the beholder.

If an attractive women is sitting with a much lower sex ranked individual other men will be more brazen in approaching her in front of him. Yes. Keep in mind part of his sex rank is the ability to fend off these dudes. If he is a three he is so Beta that he is probably asking guys to dance with his wife.

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How much do I buy into any of this? 80-20

This all gets into the Nice Guy syndrome as well. Wives no longer being attracted to the thier husbands. All sorts of reasons. Sex rank counts in that.

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Old 10-25-2011, 10:36 PM   #64 (permalink)
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This is what you get for not accepting your wife as she was.
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Old 10-25-2011, 10:38 PM   #65 (permalink)
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Dress down and go out for a few nights to a club / bar where there are a lot of men.

Then try a few times wearing some sexier clothing.

You want to bet when you will get more attention from men.

Actually I think there are websites where people post there pictures and rate others. This is all subjective but relative. It may vary from culture to culture as well. I mean what is sexy. We have discussed this before. BUT there are studies that have calculated out the ideal proportions for men and women.
It is used as factors.

BUT, can anyone disagree that a man or woman who dress better and have improved thier looks and health by exercising and showing confidence have not increased their allure to the opposite sex?

The common sense advice is that IF your realtive sex rank to your spouse over ten years drastically changes, you might be adding tension to your marriage. So a guy who adds a bunch of weight and is bringing home less money than ten years ago just might be slipping in the sex rank category. He cannot make up for that by doing more house cleaning. Add to that when the wife has improved herself physically over the ten year period, and is looking pretty hot. Lucky husband!?

So anyway, she has breast implants, is feeling confident and dressing sexy. Ummmm. I bet her sex rank went up, up, up. BTW part of a woman's sex rank is her willingness to be intimate with a given man. So a wife can step up her sex rank relative to her hubby by having exciting and more sex with her hubby.

All of this said, I love my wife and would not want anyone else. I love her for who she is and think she is plenty sexy. But then again, I am a guy. I am not looking to trade up.

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Old 10-25-2011, 11:00 PM   #66 (permalink)
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This is what you get for not accepting your wife as she was.


I didn't want to be the one who said it first as this was my first thought when I read the first post. Didn't want to be harsh since he's really upset about it but yeah...implants boosts a woman's confidence somehow.
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Old 10-25-2011, 11:03 PM   #67 (permalink)
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Read thru this post. I agree with "buyer's remorse" someone mentioned earlier. Going from B cup to DD cup raises my suspicion also about trolling, but whatever, it's a topic. Going braless with DDs by accident... come on. Heck, I'd have thought she needed a back brace just to support those whoppers.

I'm putting this one into the "Be careful what you wish for" part of my mind. Wondering why someone would marry a normal gal and then seek to turn her into something else via cosmetic surgery.

Perhaps it is a bragging thing gone wrong. Like a man that buys an average car that suits his needs fine. He then loads it it up to get attention, but now the car is a hot item, not a daily driver and he pines for the past when it wasn't so.... special, labor intensive, high maintenance, and is worried that others will steal it.

I can understand decking out a car. Doing that to one's significant other is not cool on a few levels. I guess the OP will just have to deal with what has been modified. It's easy to take the fancy rims and tires off a car, not so with boobs on your wife.

I tend to think she modified her own horsepower and is looking to race with some high performance machines. Now you're just the daily driver that bores her, and she ain't looking to race with you.
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Old 10-25-2011, 11:22 PM   #68 (permalink)
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Is the OP gone? Going from a B to DD is huge. This is what OP wanted so its kinda funny how now its throwing him for a loop. Most women who get them done do start wearing more revealing/ form fitting clothes. I have a friend that did them and i have never seen her without a tight shirt on since. She loves having her t!ts on display.
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Your wife feels satisfied with her body and enjoys the attention. I think most of us enjoy attention. Loving my own body has been a very difficult fight for me too. I often feel like it would be phenomenal if I could escape it.

You might seem shallow and stuck on her appearance in her perception as you focused on what she looked like and wanted her to improve from the get go. As a woman I would find this unattractive but she did marry you so either she did so because she was insecure to begin with and will leave you now that she feels like she's not. Sadly, her sense of security is as temporary as the amount of time her looks will endure.

I think women are often looking for love with all the wrong tools and think that having men fawn over them means they are somehow more lovable but it simply is not the truth. It makes them more screwable and that's about it. A man will tell you that women go for as good as they can get but I don't see this as a truth, more of a male projection.

I think the whole sex rank thing is thought up by men and may apply to men but that's about it. Women play the game because they are attracted to men. I think this is often why after marriage a woman stops playing the game and expects that the man will love them for them. The man is left confused because to him the game is his life and how he gauges the world around him. This isn't the case for all men though (thank goodness!!!)

How do you get to being in your 70's and holding hands in rocking chairs on the porch if you're always busy rating your lover's sexual appearance? If you're wondering if you've up'd rank and have gone from a 6 to a 7?

I can't even grasp it.

Charisma is something that moves beyond looks alone and it is achieved by being yourself. Too bad most of us are really crappy at this. That's why we think it's so important to have scales...we think if we have the proper tools we can measure something easily and come to simple conclusions. It's so rarely the case with human interactions.
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Your wife feels satisfied with her body and enjoys the attention. I think most of us enjoy attention. Loving my own body has been a very difficult fight for me too. I often feel like it would be phenomenal if I could escape it.

You might seem shallow and stuck on her appearance in her perception as you focused on what she looked like and wanted her to improve from the get go. As a woman I would find this unattractive but she did marry you so either she did so because she was insecure to begin with and will leave you now that she feels like she's not. Sadly, her sense of security is as temporary as the amount of time her looks will endure.

I think women are often looking for love with all the wrong tools and think that having men fawn over them means they are somehow more lovable but it simply is not the truth. It makes them more screwable and that's about it. A man will tell you that women go for as good as they can get but I don't see this as a truth, more of a male projection.

I think the whole sex rank thing is thought up by men and may apply to men but that's about it. Women play the game because they are attracted to men. I think this is often why after marriage a woman stops playing the game and expects that the man will love them for them. The man is left confused because to him the game is his life and how he gauges the world around him. This isn't the case for all men though (thank goodness!!!)

How do you get to being in your 70's and holding hands in rocking chairs on the porch if you're always busy rating your lover's sexual appearance? If you're wondering if you've up'd rank and have gone from a 6 to a 7?

I can't even grasp it.

Charisma is something that moves beyond looks alone and it is achieved by being yourself. Too bad most of us are really crappy at this. That's why we think it's so important to have scales...we think if we have the proper tools we can measure something easily and come to simple conclusions. It's so rarely the case with human interactions.
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Old 10-26-2011, 04:20 AM   #71 (permalink)
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Challenge flag. This is absurd. Sorry. Also DD without a bra and just forgot. Not even plausible.

Now if you said she went up a little bit and exercised I would just say this was likely her just getting ready to trade up. Hypergamy. Upping her sex rank to go after a more fit male.
Perhaps this is the case.

Assuming this is not trolling ... I would say she is after attention from other men and is prepared to move your marriage in to an open marriage.

So you should look into what she is doing with her spare time and if she is already involved with other men.

Does she have a male personal trainer?

Now taking them larger than DD. This would be very sad and would make me wonder if she was interested in going into the porn industry as women who look like this become caricatures.
She did have a personal trainer but just goes on her own to gym nowadays.

I spoke to her last night about her not wearing bra's on occasions and how she can possibly 'forget' and she said that she likes going out without wearing a bra and how the clothes look on her.

She isn't wanting to make them bigger than they already are, she is doing, definately. I told her i didnt want her to get them made even bigger but that's when she came out with the comment about it being the natural progression and next step for her.

This is what i mean about her changing so much and continuing to change, going from never wanting breast surgery to now being at the point of having her second procedure.
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Be careful what you wish for? Why wasn't your wife just perfect to you as she was?
The thought of what she would look like with her boobs done was something i should never have brought up with her, it was just something in my head that was a fantasy (call it what you like). She had a fantasticly toned body and no she didnt need breast implants.

My wife made the decision to have them enlarged to the size she did, which on the body she has are big and very noticeable.

I spoke to her sister this morning, confidentially, about my worries and how much she has changed.
Her sister said that my wife was feeling like she made a mistake for the first few weeks after the op, but she began noticing men staring at her even though she was wearing baggy tops and she started feeling good about her new body, started dressing to show off her boobs and telling people that she didnt think she would like the boob job but it was the best thing she had ever done.
Her sister told me that when my wife is out with her work friends she has guys throwing themselves at her and telling her she has an amazing body and she should do topless modelling, and her sister has seen a massive change in her.
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You said in your first post you repeatedly suggested the implants to her and she initially didn't want to. So she didn't make this decision all on her own even if she chose the size. There was likely to be a degree of pressure in her perception of the situation and decision. Oh well, she is happy she did it now, so that's a good thing at least. So she's now more confident in herself and attracting the attention of men who are probably not worth her time. Most guys I'm aware of would rather have a little bit of the real thing than fake ones.

I'm tall, size 8 (according to the international size conversion charts) and have a larger cup size than your wife. (They are real). I do not look like a caricature as someone said but in dresses, yes, you can tell I'm a bit out of balance in that area. I can tell you that I feel no respect for men who do more than just notice in passing in the same way you'd notice a person with some sort of unusual physical feature. While your wife enjoys the attention, it doesn't mean she is appreciating those kinds of men.

As for your wife, there must come a point where you get large enough that it crosses from being 'hot' to looking silly. She should also think about the back issues that could result from carrying too much weight on the front - a reason some women have reductions.
When i questioned her on getting another breast implant enlargement she told me then that she had long thought it all through and knew as soon as she began to enjoy her breast implants and the look they gave her that she needed to go even bigger.
The majority of women that have the large breast implants on slim and toned bodies, in my opinion, are in the porn industry, but maybe im being too presumptious with that.
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Old 10-26-2011, 09:51 AM   #74 (permalink)
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Ok so it is one thing to have suggested to your wife at one time to get implants. That is not something I would have done personally but not for the reasons that are ocurring.

Ok, folks she decided to get the implants. It is great she has more confidence and looks better. However, there is not excuse for her to be enlarging them more in a porn star way or for her to be acting out the way she is.

So does having larger breasts give a wife a free pass to display them anyway she wants. i.e. skimpy tops with no bra?

So I guess those that think a wife can wear anything she wants and where she wants is her business alone and not related to boundaries within her marriage.

Her friends have changed. Her activities have changed.

BTW having a persoanl trainer was not what I meant. I meant did she have a male personal trainer.

So is she now hanging out at bars and clubs and in general spending time with other men? I am getting that picture, but now it is less about the breast impmants themselves but more about her possibly single behavior.
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What a bunch of malarky! Mid 20's, getting implants...She never even gave herself a chance to grow into her body, to accept herself as she was - but with a husband consistently suggesting surgical improvements, she'd never have had the confidence to just be herself.

As for this 'sex rank' crap - well, I don't believe people, particularly women, need to be rated on a numerical scale. What a sad world we live in, where youth, beauty and money seem to be all that matters.
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