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I wanted my wife to get breast implants, she did and now she has changed?
We are both in our mid 20's and have been married three years. I always had a 'thing' for breast implants and loved the thought of her getting them. I don't know why, she certainly didnt need them she had an amazing body, but i used to suggest to her she should get breast implants.
My wife always laughed it off telling me she would never ever have cosmetic surgery and liked the size of them. But two years ago she told me she was having them done, out of the blue.
Following the operation she continued to wear the same baggy tops and jumpers she had always worn as her day to day clothes and she told me she felt uncomfortable with her new breasts and felt she may have made a mistake getting them done.
However, then she began to change, and the old clothes were replaced by tight low cut tops and tight pants and it was obvious she was dressing to show off her new breasts. Over this time she dropped another dress size from hitting the gym even more harder...
I went through a period of working weekends and on several occasions friends sent me texts telling me she had been seen out wearing extremely short and tight dresses clearly without wearing a bra. There have been occasions when she has been spotted out at the shops without wearing a bra (you get the picture). When i pulled her about this she told me 'she forgot to wear bra's sometimes and she only notices once she is out'.
She's just continued to change, she no longer sees her long time friends and now socialises with girls from her work, and from never wanting cosmetic surgery two years ago she has now told me she is having them made even bigger because its the 'natural progression and next step' in how she looks.
What is happening to her? I know i suggested the first boob job, but definately not prior to her announcing she was getting it done, but she has changed so so much.
Re: I wanted my wife to get breast implants, she did and now she has changed?
She's getting attention that she never got before the implants, ATTENTION FROM OTHER MEN, and she's digging it. Those women from work are toxic, and they will be, if they haven't already been, enabling her to see the potential of her weapons.
I hate to say it, but soon I suspect, she's going to start taking other men up on their propositions.
Re: I wanted my wife to get breast implants, she did and now she has changed?
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Originally Posted by chrisgidd
She was a B and she went up to a large DD cup.
I went from a B to a full C. I never forget to wear a bra.
Your wife is just wanting the attention she gets and she's liking it. To go from a B to large DD - yeoowwwwzaaa!! I do not even want to imagine that. It can't look natural at all.
Re: I wanted my wife to get breast implants, she did and now she has changed?
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Originally Posted by southern wife
I went from a B to a full C. I never forget to wear a bra.
Your wife is just wanting the attention she gets and she's liking it. To go from a B to large DD - yeoowwwwzaaa!! I do not even want to imagine that. It can't look natural at all.
It doesnt look natural, they look big and fake and look even bigger when she lost a bit more weight through toning up even more.
I appreciate everyones comments so far, thank you.
I'm mentally beating myself up because of the fact i used to suggest wanting her to get breast implants, but certainly i never mentioned it for a good while prior to her getting them.
My friends think the fact she went to a large size, especially for her body, shows she knew how her new boobs were going to make her look.
I dont know though, she was very reserved for a while after having them done, as i mentioned in my opening post, and then she began to change her dress style and look.
She isnt a forgetful type of lady, and im not a bra wearer but i couldnt see how she could forget to wear a bra, to me it was done so people could see her breast implants to full effect and her nipples.
Re: I wanted my wife to get breast implants, she did and now she has changed?
I'm not too sure what you thought would happen...at your suggestion, she got the implants, and now, you're unhappy with the change in her attitude? For all intents and purposes, she's loving the attention from other men. Fake or not fake, an old friend of mine clued me in on the reasoning for this: "Men don't care." (if they're fake or not). Big t!ts are big t!ts.
Re: I wanted my wife to get breast implants, she did and now she has changed?
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Originally Posted by chrisgidd
She was a B and she went up to a large DD cup.
Challenge flag. This is absurd. Sorry. Also DD without a bra and just forgot. Not even plausible.
Now if you said she went up a little bit and exercised I would just say this was likely her just getting ready to trade up. Hypergamy. Upping her sex rank to go after a more fit male.
Perhaps this is the case.
Assuming this is not trolling ... I would say she is after attention from other men and is prepared to move your marriage in to an open marriage.
So you should look into what she is doing with her spare time and if she is already involved with other men.
Does she have a male personal trainer?
Now taking them larger than DD. This would be very sad and would make me wonder if she was interested in going into the porn industry as women who look like this become caricatures.
Re: I wanted my wife to get breast implants, she did and now she has changed?
I agree with what the others have said. This is what you wanted her to do, she did. So I'm not sure what the big fuss is about. Going from a B cup to a DD is going to get some attention, even if she wasn't purposely trying to.
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When your wife was reserved before, it was probably because she lacked self confidence. The implants have slowly built her self confidence, and it all became cyclical. Implants, more self confidence, starts working out, more self confidence, short skirts, more self confidence, etc.
It doesn't surprise me that this is a shock to you. Your original post makes it clear that you wanted her to get implants for your sake, not hers. Caveat emptor.
What is happening to her? I know i suggested the first boob job, but definately not prior to her announcing she was getting it done, but she has changed so so much.
Sounds like she's hunting.
Her sex rank has gone up and yours has stayed the same or gone down.
It's not a good situation for you.
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I wanted my wife to get breast implants, she did and now she has changed? 
