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post #16 of 35 (permalink) Old 06-08-2016, 10:02 AM
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I got an email just the other day from someone wanting me to be their 'pu$$y punisher".
Heh... I got that one too, in Gmail.

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Its easy to end up on spam lists. At one point I started getting a lot of german porn spam - seems like the mailing list for a scientific collaboration in Germany got grabbed by a spam group.

If he goes to porn sites, that can generate a HUGE amount of spam. That isn't the only way though, its no proof that he is watching porn.

Clicking on link-bait on facebook can do it as well.

Clicking on a link in a spam will get you lots more - it proves to them that your email is active.



So, I wouldn't worry about the spam, he may have done absolutely nothing wrong except failed to practice safe hex.
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So, I wouldn't worry about the spam, he may have done absolutely nothing wrong except failed to practice safe hex.
Except that she did say they were from dating/hookup sites, which is a concern. Again, you will not receive email from those sites (apart from 'free trial' ads occasionally) unless you have an account, or otherwise provided your address to THEM. Reputable companies do not buy spam email lists, as a general rule.

Which is why I'm hoping OP will reply with what, exactly, dating sites are sending her husband emails.
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Or is she assuming they are from dating sites because of the content?

Would be good to know, yes.

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Its not always obvious. Lots of Russian girls want to meet me. Lots of lonely single women are sending me their pictures (or at least attachments that claim to be pictures....). Considering that I've also won several sweepstakes my life must be pretty good.

If these are real contact emails from real dating sites its a problem, but there is a lot of spam designed to look like real interest.
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Its not always obvious. Lots of Russian girls want to meet me. Lots of lonely single women are sending me their pictures (or at least attachments that claim to be pictures....). Considering that I've also won several sweepstakes my life must be pretty good.

If these are real contact emails from real dating sites its a problem, but there is a lot of spam designed to look like real interest.
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They seem to come from two or three similar sites.
I also get the Russian girls, lonely single women, etc. emails, but they don't seem to come from a "site", per se. There's really no way to tell how many of them originate from the same sender(s). Not only that, but they also utilize fake reply email addresses, making blocking impossible (ie. you block THAT one email, which you're unlikely to receive any more messages from, any way). Know what I mean?

They way I read OP's post was that they are coming from 2 or 3 different SITES, and I took that to mean Match, OKCupid, Adult Friend Finder, et al.
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i do not know HOW they get our email addresses, but ANYONE can get spammed with sexual emails. I have an account that i ONLY use for serious personal emails....almost never give it out. Last month i started getting emails from "women" in the netherlands that want to hook up with me. Maybe getting 10 a week now.
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Thanks all. I don't remember exactly - no Match.com, etc. but the one I remember was from something called Flirt.com???? My guess is that his email was just sold somewhere along the line - so I probably won't worry too much. I won't click on the links - no way - no how!
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Did the actual email address have flirt.com in it? Spam emails disguise themselves with copied logos etc


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Thanks all. I don't remember exactly - no Match.com, etc. but the one I remember was from something called Flirt.com???? My guess is that his email was just sold somewhere along the line - so I probably won't worry too much. I won't click on the links - no way - no how!
Could be either/or then. I've never heard of flirt.com, but it IS a dating site upon quick inspection, as opposed to a scam.

If I were you, I'd click the link anyway, and see if there's an account registered with that email address. But that's up to you.

I don't mean to make you paranoid, but you're obviously concerned about this, hence your post. Unless the email specifically says "free trial" or what have you, there's a good chance there's an account registered there.

Flirt.com isn't one of the major dating sites, as far as I know (never heard of it), but it also appears to be a real, actual dating site nonetheless - not a Russian brides type of thing. I wouldn't be scared of malware if you click any links in the email, is what I'm trying to say.

You can choose to bury your head in the sand though, of course, but if this were me, I'd be investigating a little further just for my own sanity. Going solely by what you've described to us here, I'd have cause for concern. Could be nothing, too.
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I have several email accounts including two gmail accounts - for work. I never get dating or hookup email (spam) on any of them. DH however gets lots. Is this because of the sites he has visited or is it just chance? They seem to come from two or three similar sites. He is not very computer savvy but knows enough to clear browsing history I think and close all apps on iphone. Is it worth checking further or am I paranoid?
You might be paranoid.

The work email address I had at my last job was getting lots of spam for dating sites, porn sites and the like.

He's not tech savvy? Then you need to help him out by helping him block the spam emails.

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TL : DR - if the emails are from reputable sites, then he has an account there.
I have never signed up for a dating site or similar and I get spam from Match, OurTime and other dating sites at least once a week.
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Did the actual email address have flirt.com in it? Spam emails disguise themselves with copied logos etc
Exactly... I had an advert from AM that did not come from AM but a spoofing Gmail account to my Gmail last week.

Gmail did catch it as Junk through.
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I have never signed up for a dating site or similar and I get spam from Match, OurTime and other dating sites at least once a week.
Here's the thing - they (and other "reputable" sites) will send occasional promotional emails to select audiences. Web marketing has come a long way since the old days of 'throwing spaghetti at the wall'.

The targeting of select audiences isn't 100% perfect, of course, but a site like Match is going on the assumption that you are single and looking. This is usually data-mined from elsewhere (like Facebook, for example). That, combined with a valid email address = "targeted" emails. It's not always accurate, however. There's a reason Facebook has a relationship status field. If you click on a link, or use an app through Facebook that requires your email address, then you just made it available to countless entities. Couple that with the data mined from your actual Facebook profile (ie. "single", "married" etc.) and you get targeted email. Many will actually data mine your music preferences, movies and TV, and whatever other information we may or may not provide to Facebook.

So yes, it's feasible to receive promotional/marketing emails, unsolicited. My guess is that whatever data has been mined from you over the years has resulted in you being assumed single, whatever age you are, your gender, and many other things that indicate to the powers that be that you are exactly who Match should be targeting.

Again, just about everybody on the planet receives sketchy spam email - however the vast majority of it is completely random. Somebody has a list of 1,000,000 email addresses, so whatever it is they're selling is sent to all 1,000,000, regardless of age, gender, marital status, location, etc.

But when it comes to well-known, larger companies, their junk email is targeted. They're not always right, but they're also not randomly sending out 1,000,000 emails in one go.
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