I could really use some advice and opinions on this... My husband is the best man in his buddies wedding this August. The guys planned the grooms bachelor party out of town in Tampa for 4 days this weekend (we are from Canada).
We just had a newborn baby, she is 10 weeks old, but I would never expect my husband not to plan or goto this event for his best friend.
I love my husband and I feel we have a really great marriage, although only been married for 1.5 years and together for 3 years. We are both in our 30's (33 and 34). So far never had any major issues or trust issues. My husband does know that I have one major insecurity.. And that is men traveling out of town whether it be business or bachelor parties etc.
I can't even say this is a trust issue from past experiences, I have just heard so many horrible stories. I also have personally been out with girlfriends and been hit on married men, caught men taking off their wedding rings, witnessed men at bachelor parties, in my single days been one of those women invited into bachelor party shenanigans whether it be bottle service, etc.
Now don't get me wrong my husband is not the bar type. He hasn't been to a bar probably since we started dating. The only time he will ever be in a bar or strip club is at a bachelor party!
Since us dating/married he has been to 3 friends bachelor parties. He always text or called me, we would laugh about some funny stories of embarassing the groom on stage at the strip club, getting the groom wasted etc. All in good fun! My husband never made me anxious or uncomfortable and always did a good job checking in or giving me a good night call or text at the end of the crazy boys night!
This weekend away he checked in on our baby and I many times, he missed her so much and wanted to FaceTime to see her.
Friday night (the last night there) was the big bender night. Their plan was to head to a golf range / dinner and then return to the house and get ready, where the limo would pick them up and take them to the bar for the evening. They were doing bottle service and the whole shebang.
I last heard from my husband at 7pm saying they were at the golf place.. After that nothing..... I didn't text or call but went to bed with my daughter around 11pm.. I woke up at 7:30am to feed her and was shocked!! Not a single message, text, call NOTHING from my husband..
8am.. 9 am rolls around still nothing.
I sent him a text then and said I was completely shocked and disappointed and confused why on earth I had not received a single message since 7pm?
This is VERY out of character in our marriage and we have both never done this to each other, not even on our OWN stags when we got married in 2014. I was in Vegas and he was in Tampa and we sent many "Love you, miss you" type texts.
My husband finally wrote me back and called me around 10am. He said his phone died at 7pm at the golf place and he never got a chance to charge it.
The house they stayed at has a land line as well, and he is with 7 other guys.. Obviously someone had a charged phone!!
I haven't talked to my husband yet, he comes home today. I have ignored his numerous I'm so sorry texts and calls and voicemails.
I am incredibly hurt and confused...... I don't know if this means he cheated on me or he was up to no good!!!! He has never done this before, like I said we usually laugh at bachelor party drunken night shenanigans. I'm not the kind of wife that sets rules or says anything is off limits.. We just always had a mutual respect to call and check in on each other to say we love and miss each other- regardless of the time, how drunk we are etc.
I am especially hurt that he would pull a stunt like this while I am home with our 10week old newborn.. It makes me feel really ignored, hurt and insecure. As many women know, having a baby wreaks havoc on you emotionally, your body changes and needs to recover, you are adjusting to life as a new mother - it's a very hard time.
I am obviously going to talk to him when he gets home but I have just been ignoring him for like 2 days because I keep crying and feel hurt, angry, confused..
Thanks for any suggestions or opinions on this