Originally Posted by aston
I've noticed she's become a little raunchier after we agreed on the separation/divorce. Has anyone else experienced this or betterstill are you currently having good sex with the soon to be ex? Got a text message from her today that simply read "wanna *uck tonight?"......NEVER happened in 11 yrs together ok.
It's a lot easier to happy and fun with someone when your happy with yourself.. How many times do we see someone go through a divorce and lose weight, take care of themselves, ect... All the things they should have been doing IN the Marraige??
You both have "probably" started to feel a little independence and self confidence being sep.. so your having great sex because of it.. and maybe there is a little "absents makes the heart grow fonder" kind of thing going on..
But yes this is a commonplace...
My concerns would be
*That eventually someone is going to say no... and there might be problems at that point... llike another divorce..
*It could confuse the relationship and force the both of you to get back together when deep down you know you shouldn't
*if there is children involved it could really cause confusion for them if they were to "think" you guys are getting back together and could cause problems there..
* It could keep either of you from moving on and forward in your lives..
I did it during my one and only divorce.. for me it helped smooth over a lot of anger and anamosity between us.. I think we were able to come to some common place and actually begin to like each other enough so that ever since we have had a pretty decent divorce raising one child together.. we ended on a good note (if thats possible