If it was only that simple for me. I cannot jump his bones when I am feeling like this and he would see right through that. Thanks for the advice anyway!
That's exactly the attitude that keeps couples from finding resolutions to their problem.
He wouldn't see through it because you will just have lots of sex and while your banging him you will say nothing of your needs just love him. Keep filling his love tank. He will love it and want to eventually return the favor. Knowing he was a dope around his family with you. I can guarantee this will fix your issue eventually. Guys will move mountains if their wives become hot sexy girlfriends who fulfill their every fantasy!
Wives get lazy knowing they don't have to put out... sex declines.... guys act out.... wives build resentments.... spouses end up both being unhappy! This is where YOU are now.
Men NEED lots of GREAT FUN sex WITH VARIETY from their wives... if YOU aren't providing that at least EVERY SINGLE WEEK even when on your period (service him some other way).... he will be unhappy and care less about your needs. That was my situation I was the unhappy husband acting out in negative ways because I was getting boring sex less than monthly leading up to my wife's disconnection. Neither of us were filling the others needs for years. Now I'm fixing it but it's taken years!
I decided to turn the other cheek in my situation...
AFter her disconnection emotionally...I've only had sex 7 times in two years, my wife never hugs me, says I love you or kisses me. Twice in 2011 it was getting worse. All the while I was working my butt off trying to re-build the damage. She claimed she was trying and wants to stay married but after two years and it getting worse... I was at the end of my rope! Like you.
This dysfunction needed to end....
My solution was to go celibate for 6-months and work on emotionally reconnecting with my wife with our "issue" off-the table allowing for a stress-free marriage. Do I feel like "emotionally reconnecting" when my needs aren't anywhere close to met?
Actually I do because I feel this 6-months I'm shelving my own needs will fill her love tank so after she will want to fill my needs.
I'm trying to save my marriage and make it better.
I don't want the old dysfunctional one. If it can't be fixed we will divorce eventually guaranteed.
In any marriage it takes one spouse to DO THE RIGHT THING because the other spouse is incapable at the moment of solving the issue.
YOu can't force your spouse to do anything!... You have to get them to WANT to do it themselves. Trust me if your husband won't take any chance of upsetting you it you turn into his sexy girlfriend! Give him all his XXX rated fantasies for the next few months, do those things that you said no to yet you know he wants badly and "rock his world"... see what happens.
My issue had been going on two years after 17 great years.
How long has yours been going on...
Go have lots of sex with your husband if you want to fix your marriage!
Be the adult in the family...change your dynamics.
Or just complain about you dysfunctional marriage here if that makes you feel better and won't change ANYTHING.
Talk is cheap.... actions work over time.
PS...I used to be unhappy like you... but be taking action and having a plan I am now happy really happy because I see the light at the end of the tunnel. I see positive changes in my wife everyday.
For me it's worth 2.5 years of personal hell for a GREAT marriage the rest of the time.
Remember the "unhappiness" is in your MIND learn to appriciate all the other stuff your husband does right and take the focus off your issue temporarily. Work on your part of the whole mess!