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The Day and Night Guy that Doesn't Talk?

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Since joining a few online dating websites like ******* and Plenty of Fish, I have come across some guys, I have talked too. One of them, him and I hit it off, and he told me on the dating site, that he'd like to hang out, and wanted my number. He also mentioned that he worked night shifts, so he would sleep during the day. BUT I can still see him on the dating site on and off throughout the day, so he's up and sleeping I guess?

Anyway, we exchanged numbers, and this is how it played out, after giving him my number June 17th, I figured he would text me all night or at least a couple of hours, while he worked at night, but he did not. The next day he texts me at 9AM and that was it for the whole day when night fell, he texted me twice and that was it.

Why go and tell me, that you want to hang out, and want my number and then you barely talk to me at all? And then his schedule is weird so that makes it more difficult to chat as well.

What to do? Keep talking to this guy or cut him free?
 
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From memory she liked punk type music and her men 'goth'. :grin2:
 
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He also mentioned that he worked night shifts, so he would sleep during the day. BUT I can still see him on the dating site on and off throughout the day, so he's up and sleeping I guess?
You're too needy... He's not your boyfriend so he can talk to whoever he wants. You're already stalking him online. I agree he shouldn't of lied but technically it's not like he's doing anything wrong by talking to other women. You should be talking to other men too.

after giving him my number June 17th, I figured he would text me all night
Woah, woah, woah, slow your roll a little. Texting all night?!? Way too needy..... Texting is for scheduling the date. Is their some reason you're putting your eggs in one basket and mentally planning your future already with this guy.

You sound like you REALLY need to be alone for a while and are clearly not ready to start dating.
 
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#18 ·
They wont take interest in someone who comes across as needy, most guys hate that. Most PEOPLE in general hate that actually.
And I totally agree with Blueinbr, saying you need to get a job as it will help your life. My own experience when I got my first proper job was very positive in terms of self confidence and independence and that in turn helped my social life wonderfully.
Even if you took something as a volunteer to start you off?
 
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I'm going to put it to you this way... In today's society it takes TWO incomes to be independent.

As for the housewife thing on your other thread, I was once out of work for a year and focussed on helping to raise the kids. OMG that was an eye opener!!!!! Here are a few things you run into with that:

• Can you heat a baby bottle when the microwave breaks?
• Can you baby proof everything in your house?
• Can you clean baby poo off of the bathroom cabinets, mirror, and floor?
• Can you stand watching Barney 24/7?
• You know that stretchy string that will keep pulling out of your socks when one comes loose and it will keep pulling and pulling and pulling. Can you pull about six feet of that string from your child's digestive system when he/she starts choking on a sock hanging half way out of their mouth?
• When your child has a high fever and is throwing up everywhere, you OK sitting for three hours in the pediatrician's office with other sick kids?
• Can you plan and prepare your household taxes?
• Can you assemble a Bouncy Bouncer Step 1 Super Playland from Toys R Us?
• Can you disassemble a Bouncy Bouncer Step 1 Super Playland from Toys R Us and return it when you find out it is defective?
• Can you learn to go to the post office with: extra diapers, bottle, child seat, stroller, play toys, change of cloths, wipes, trash bags, and a back up binky?
• Disassemble a stroller and run parts with vomit through the washer.
• Clean rice pudding off the ceiling?
• Respond to a 911 emergency room situation when your child stops breathing due to severe congestion.
• Remember to NOT let you child get his/her hands on a lemon under any circumstances that came with your ice water at a restaurant.
• Scold your parents when they try to insist your child is ready to go to the lake without a life vest.
• Take your child for swimming lessons.
• Replace binky when binky is officially lost and there are no hopes of finding another anywhere.

...ummm yeah, it is way the **** easier to just get a job!!!!! This is what men learned a long time ago. We go into the office where everything is quiet, orderly, and our very attractive assistants help take care of us!

Cheers,
Badsanta
 
#31 ·
Because she seems to WANT her parents to object to every possible career so she can focus her time on finding a singular male to assume her parents responsibilities.
 
#33 ·
Why can't you just get a job at a normal, non-night shift job? What about sales or daytime retail? There should be plenty of easy jobs to get, even for someone in their 20's with no college degree.

Why are you parents so paranoid about you doing something wrong and them getting sued?

If I were you, I would try to accomplish the following, in this order (assuming you currently have NO money)

1. Get a job..doesn't matter what. ANY Income is better than nothing. Work at a local Fast food or Grocery store if you need to.
2. Save up enough money to buy your own car (again, assuming you don't have one)
3. Find a cheap place to rent with roommates.
4. Move out and work on gaining your independence (also, get a better job/career eventually).

After you hit Step 3 or 4, I think you'll be more prepared to pursue the relationships you're after.

EDIT: After posting this, it looks like you really DON'T Want to work, and use your parents concerns as a crutch to support your lack of desire to find a job.
 
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I cannot get a job, because I hardly have ANY experience in the work field. No place will hire me with no experience. YES I know go volunteer, that will get you experience blah blah blah. BUT I DO NOT want to work for FREE. I already work for FREE as a freelance writer and it sucks. Why work for free elsewhere on top of that? I live in California, rent here is $1,200 plus for a apartment, room mates or not. I can't afford that, plus the regular bills, with a fast food or regular retail job. I DO NOT want to go back to school and be in debt either. Waste of time and money. And I can't handle those classes, they are too hard. And school is just not for me.
 
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@badsanta- Yep you missed the post where she had specified she just wants to sit on her a$$ all day at home, and NOT have kids.
This is a 10year old trapped in a 28 year old female's body.

Im not saying that because she doesn't want to have kids, actually I for one am relieved that gene pool will cease to exist...

She is saying she doesn't want to work EVER, for ANYTHING, even in trying to find a hapless man willing to support this type of crazy she is being lazy. This man has to do more than bend over backwards, she is searching for a prince charming that doesn't exist.
 
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