Mark, I appreciate so much you responding to my thread. Without giving advice you have accurately laid out my scenario.
Yes, this is the new improved me
I decided to stop giving advice from the point of view of what "I would do", because I realized that I was projecting myself into situations described in threads like yours, feeling the discomfort, and then saying what I would do to "fix" the situation. But you are not me, so it may not be helpful. What I feel is
helpful, is to help people view things from a wider perspective so that they can "see" their way forward.
Awareness is key.
So if by ignore, you mean pretend you're not seeing it, that would represent a contraction of awareness. If by ignore you mean, access it quietly over a longer period of time with eyes fully open, that is different.
I am trying to be more physically attentive to him and less inhibited hoping he won't feel the need to do this.
If this represents a change of tack for you, then you will need time to access the effect.
Some men can find sex very fulfilling in a wholesome way, but have another segment - a kink if you will - that they crave to be able to indulge in every now and then, but feel it is out of the question discussing it with their wife. Or sometimes they do but they get a horrified look or comment,and decide to keep that part of themselves secret from then on.