Musicdiva..I'm not familiar with your recent threads or posts.. you seem to be getting beat up on here.. others feeling you will surely end up an old Maid with cats round about you.....
Some advice...take it for whatever it's worth....If you are seeking a more Traditional Man.. they are harder to find today.. some may still be found in churches..but even these men know they need to be ever careful about what sort of woman they attach themselves to....far too much is at stake these days...more & more men want women with careers, or at least she's shown she CAN live on her own, making it...
I've known a couple women in my life who never drove a car.. this is near unheard of today, they didn't work either.. both had families & good husbands...I can't imagine someone like this finding a boyfriend today -even in our own area..it's just a different world we live in...
Be a GIVER...the sorry problem with too many people is.. if you are too good to them.. they start to take advantage of it.. don't BE this person.. and don't marry someone like that.. .. marry someone who appreciates the little things.. I guess is what I am trying to say...
A more Traditional man (if he's a good one that is) will appreciate your holding down the fort at Home, if /when you have kids...if you both can afford to live within your means...he may even prefer this..to take the pressure off of him, doing chores at home, etc....
It's very important for us all to be
self aware .. to see ourselves how others SEE US.. so we can work on ourselves.. being the BEST we can be.. and give in a relationship..being that Team player...when this is flowing ..hopefully we'll naturally validate each other...
There is a term used by relationship Experts called
"Interdependence"...
Two people in a healthy relationship are said to be "Interdependent". In contrast to existing alone, it is a voluntary recognition that “no man is an island,” and that we must co-inhabit the space in which we live ...
If a couple is too
"independent" of each other.. they may be too focused on self / own hobbies, not enough "couple time" to grow & enjoy each other... on the other hand.. if one is too
"dependent" on the other.. this is no good.. we don't want our husbands feeling like we're a burden to him...dragging him down..we want to carry our own weight... which strengthens our union, this also gives us appreciation for each others roles.. though our roles may be very different, varying from couple to couple ...
Hopefully...we very much appreciate all the other brings to our lives.. this enhances our experience...so no one feels taken advantage of......