Need advice, PLEASE!!!! This may be long....
I have been married for 32 years this December. I got married at an early age (18) and have three beautiful children, now all grown. I had know my wife for about 5 years before we married and we dated for four of the five years. I knew her, but I really did NOT know her, if you know what I am saying.
As we were dating, she was well liked by her peers, and appeared to be out-going. She has a twin sister (fraternal) who was very outgoing (cheerleader, band, flag leader, etc.). However, my wife, i found out later was never the type to do active things in life. She was a loner, and clinged to me 24-7 when we were dating, and would get extremely jealous if I even LOOKED at another girl.
I thought it was cute(at the time), and we spent a lot of time together. I went into the military when I was 18, and we got married shortly after that. Our marraiage was OK at first, but that is when I noticed the change in her. She would start fights for no reason at all. If a female (even one she knew) said hello to me I would get accused of trying to be with that person. About that time, our first child as born and she gained a lot of weight, making things even worse. However, as a good husband, I never, ever, said anything about her weight, but the abuse from her continued. It got so bad, that if I went anywhere, she had to go with me. Now, I have never cheated on her, or anything. She was just clingy.
I thought that over time, it would get better, now it's the same. I have no social life unless she is involved. I used to go fishing a lot. I would go with my mom and dad, so she was not threatened by that association and it was OK. Now that they both have passed, she does not want me to go anymore, or she wants to tag along. I thought it would be okay for her to tag along, but she is NOT an out-doors person and complained the whole time that I cut my trip short.
What can I do, or am I doomed? It's really taking an effect on me as the only time i have to myslef is when I go to work, and then she calls me every hour! I am going nuts here!!
I wanted to point out that she told me she did not have a great child hood. She stated her mother favored her sister over her and would praise her all of the time because she was so out-going. ALso, she has six brothers who had a lot of male friends come around, and she was sexually molested several times without telling anyone.
I want you to know that I do love my wife, but I am now 50, and sometimes I dont want to come home as I feel I dont have a life of my own. Is there something wrong with me?