Re: Why does he keep in touch with ex-girlfriends???
hmmm - I have the same issue. I've been living with a guy for a couple of years and he has several women he is friends with that I've never met and he's constantly deleting texts from them and I know he phones them and meets them for lunch. He lies to me about this, or simply lies by omission. When confronted, he denies it, then blames me then justifies it. He says he has to lie about it because I can't handle the truth. More like he doesn't want to be inconvenienced by the consequences of his own action. Also says that his relationships with these women don't affect our relationship so I don't need to know about them. He is divorced, the was engaged to a woman who caught him cheating on her, and lies about all kinds of stuff all the time. He is totally guilt and insecurity driven, and lies to cover inappropriate or incrimintating behaviour by himself or his family. I have witnessed him lying to his friends, lying to his family and certainly caught him lying to me on numerous occassions. Why am I still with this lying cheating cowardly man, you must be asking by now. Well, that's a very long story. Anyway - one of the women he keeps in touch with has her phone number on not one but 2 escort sites. Very creepy. I have told him this. Of course he denies that too, but there it is. He is the King of De Nile. Stranger thing is he is great to be with, very fun, successful, chivalrous, so I have no idea why he has this whole other lying cheating side. It's weird. Unfortunately, I can't believe a word he says about where he is or who he's with because there have just been too many lies. Even weirder is that he does not seem to think that honesty and trust are important in a relationship. It doesn't seem to bother him that his word means squat and that he is not trustworthy. He even went so far as to try to turn things around and said a friend of mine told him that I'm seeing some guy from work. He couldn't name the friend or the mystery man I'm supposedly seeing. How messed up is all of this! I have yet to determine the cause of this compulsion he has to surround himself with other women. I don't know if he is keeping them as back up, boosting his insecurity, has some kind of odd addiction or what. In some cases he renders these women financial beholden to him so they'll feel obligated to spend time with him. Sometimes I wonder if the really young one is a daughter from a previous relationship that I don't know about or if he's being blackmailed. Doesn't make any sense to me for him to have all these single female friends I can't meet. Hey you single women - stop helping men cheat - go get your own men and leave mine alone. Although, in their defense, they probably don't know he is taken. 50 shades of messed up is my life.