01-07-2009, 08:20 AM
Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: Hazzard County, NC
| | Re: i need help..please read
I'm sorry... My vows may have been different from yours, but sickness and health was in there somewhere. If physical attraction is the only glue that binds the two of you together, then there was never a marriage, and it would never work out anyway.
My wife pushed me around in a wheel chair for 2 solid years. I was not the man she married, but she took care of me. It was not fair but she never complained, and while we were told at the time that my disability would be life-long, she stuck by my side until I was granted the miracle of my mobility.
If she is not dependent upon you to survive, then you should tell her honestly how you feel and then end the marriage so she doesn't have to live with the shame of holding you back from what you really want in life. If she is dependent upon you for her care, then you need to consider making some arrangements where she will get the care she needs to live.
The two of you made a commitment... 50/50. It is totally unfair for you to throw her out and to discard her like a TV set or a toaster for circumstances beyond her control because she no longer suits your needs.
Maybe she will eventually come to terms that she will be able to parent a child, but what I am hearing here is that you no longer have use for her and are looking for someone to tell you it is acceptable to toss her out with yesterday's garbage.
if my wife weighed 1000 pounds and could not move from the bed, I would love her and care for her until I drew my final breath because we made a commitment before God, her family and mine.
Think about other common ground that bonds the two of you together. Sexual attraction alone will never be a strong enough glue to keep ANY marriage together.