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Can't understand who they interview for the size does not matter thing. Size matters, too thin is worse that too short. Girth is important because it hits all of the right spots if it is wide enough. Plus a big one is much more impressive and manly. I have only seen two in real life but I have head description by gf with more experience and size mattered to every single one.
I think that the size demands are already having an effect. Young girls look at porn too and average size is not a well represented in porn. Boys are more nervous about size and girls may be disappointed that not too many guys have larger than average. Posted via Mobile Device
AMEN to that Catherine!
Size only "doesn't" matter if you have no other experience or nothing to compare it to.
thanks MWIL, sometimes it not what a person says but they way they say it. And yes sometimes its the perception of whats being said, but I would think it can go either way on both parts.
True - there's always that - he said, she said thing, huh?
Agree to disagree - that's what makes the world go round.
It would be awfully boring if we all thought the same way and agreed on everything (wouldn't marriage too? HA).
I didn't have a problem with porn at all the H would leave for work and be gone from M-F and I wasn't naive enough to think he would "hold out" till he got home so porn served him well when not at home. I knew he watched and even his favorites. Where it started to become a problem was when we only had sex once and he would, by his own admission, go to the truck and beat off the minute he had a chance. I am by no means prudish when it comes to sex, in fact I'm a bit more experimental than he is because I enjoy sex immensely. I always thought that fulfilling his fantasies would keep him interested but I was proven wrong. If I'm lucky we will have sex once a week even now that I'm in the truck with him. Now I'm not saying ALL men are like this just mine and that is why I have a problem with porn. Posted via Mobile Device
thanks MWIL, sometimes it not what a person says but they way they say it. And yes sometimes its the perception of whats being said, but I would think it can go either way on both parts.
Amen on that. You can be the most knowledgeable person (or you can think so anyway) , on a subject, but if you come across as holier than thou or a know it all, well then you're just a dumbass in my book.
Catherine, but why do you even care what other people do with their lives, whether it is to be consumed with porn, or to sit around and watch The View/Soap Operas/Dr. Phil, to spend a lot of time worshiping their God of choice, or beating off to porn?
I would be willing to bet that there are a good number of men, like myself, who use porn to complement their otherwise healthy sex lives. These days, I can count on my wife for sex maybe 4 times a week but, until you have the opportunity to have a hard penis attached to your body, then you really shouldn't judge whether a man should masturbate or not (and I could not imagine just lying there and masturbating with my eyes closed without porn).
On the days I am not having sex, I see no harm in masturbating to porn and there is no more fantasizing going on in porn for me than sometimes exists when I am having sex with my wife. Trust me, as bad as it may make me sound, sometimes my wife, in my mind, becomes one of her friends, becomes her brother's wife, becomes a woman at the gym I'm attracted to, becomes a 33 year old teacher (while I am a 16 year old student) who I am having sex with to pass her high school class, etc. Sex with someone for the 1,500th time just isn't the same as having sex with someone for the first or even the 100th time so fantasies play a very useful role.
As far as what some of the others have written, my wildest sex has not come from fantasies I've tried to live out from things I've seen in porn, but rather from dating women between marriages. I would've never dreamed of choking a woman while I am inside her missionary style, pulling her hair HARD while I am inside her doggy style, spanking her until she literally had bruises on her butt while inside her doggy style (and still being told to spank her harder), slapping a woman across the face while inside her, and even fisting a woman at her own request and told by her that it was the most intense feeling and orgasm she could get by being fisted and that she could only equate it to the feeling that heroin users had described the high from heroin was like. NONE of this was porn induced but rather induced by quite normal women (Fist Girl, as I adoringly like to remember her, was a petite newly inducted attorney about 30 years old, for example).
Now what I did learn from porn was invaluable and that was cunnilingus and this has served me well. It was one movie that I must have watched as about a 21 year old, before I even had a serious relationship, and the actress from the porn movie was just enjoying the cunninlingus WAAAAYYY too much to be faking it. I had the chance to put it into action a few months later and knew I was onto something special and have only perfected it in the near two decades since.
Ideally, I would have sex with my wife 5 days a week, and then masturbate on the two off days. I try to make a very conscious effort NOT to masturbate on days where there is even a remote chance we will have sexual intercourse but if I masturbate during my DW's period, when the most I'll get is a BJ, then, well, that is ok...may take her a couple minutes longer to make me climax and she may not be satisfied with the amount I ejaculate, but, c'est la vie.
To me this sounds like YOU have a forceful sex drive, because you are the man, and that you NEED to masturbate when not having sex, because having a hard "p$nis" attached to your body couldn't possibly be any different than having a ripe "vajay".
I have never been able to figure out why men think they have the upper hand when it comes to sexual frequency, need and drive.
I have more of a drive than my husband - so does this give me the right to become a porn hound?
If your spouse is on-board, then great.
If not, then respect him/her and their feelings on the subject. Bottom line.
SEX is NOT MANDATORY - you do not need it to LIVE.
Where's Ian Ironwood in all of this? You yell fire and most people run, yell porn and he comes running with melted rubber under his Nike's.
Whoa, funny you should mention him. I was thinking the same thing earlier in this post. I bet he is still "around." Someone mentioned him once before in another thread, then all of a sudden he appeared.
Whoa, funny you should mention him. I was thinking the same thing earlier in this post. I bet he is still "around." Someone mentioned him once before in another thread, then all of a sudden he appeared.
He'll wait until this post is at 22 pages and then go in for the kill and drag it out another 29 pages with his dissertation on how porn is a need for a man, as much so as say air and water.
He'll wait until this post is at 22 pages and then go in for the kill and drag it out another 29 pages with his dissertation on how porn is a need for a man, as much so as say air and water.
Re: Porn...seriously, what's the big deal??? 
, on a subject, but if you come across as holier than thou or a know it all, well then you're just a dumbass in my book. 
