Re: Husband literally spit in my face
Let me tell you something. I dealt with being abused for over FIVE YEARS with my ex, and it was daily towards the end. At the last incident, I did the hardest thing I ever had to do... I picked up a phone, dialed 911 and let them tape the abuse over the phone. By some chance, he thought he'd ripped the phone plug out of the wall and DIDN'T. He was choking me when the police came, and I remember whispering to him "I can't breathe". When he looked me dead in the eye and said "Good" I knew that he was going to kill me. The police came, arrested him and I INSTANTLY became homeless. His adopted father had given us the house we lived in, and kicked me out as soon as he learned I called the cops on his son. I had three days to pack what I could into my two cars, with my three dogs and I lived in a Walmart parking lot. Walmart even towed one of my cars after 7 days while I was out looking for a job. They eventually got my car back for me, after telling them my situation. I found a home for my three dogs, who I had for YEARS, and the couple who took them changed my life forever. They got me a job after I searched for months, allowed me visitation with my "kids", (that really kept my spirit alive during this time, because wouldn't you know it - after I found it was so difficult on my own, I started REGRETING having called the police on my ex)!!! The place they got me hired at would be the place I would meet my now-husband. I worked and continued to be homeless, living in my car and showering at my now-husband's place, while I saved money for my own dwelling. After a YEAR of this I finally got my own home, and moved in just days before Christmas. The couple who took my dogs GAVE THEM BACK to me, and it was the best gift I think I've EVER received in my whole life!!! I still get choked up remembering that day. They are now dear friends, they are more than friends, they are family to me, and God only knows where I'd be without them. You CAN do this. You HAVE to. Where there is a will, there's a way. In the end, it was worth it. I risked everything, lost everything and had to start from scratch, literally. When I look at how far I've come now, it's just amazing to me. The hardest part about leaving my ex... He was my best friend. REALLY. We shared the kind of closeness and intimacy that people only dream of... He just couldn't stop using drugs and abusing me. We had so many good times and adventures together... So many heartfelt talks, so many dreams. In the end, it was just talk. Get out, and do it for your kids. My DOGS were traumatized by my ex. They STILL cower when someone raises their voice. Imagine how your kids are affected, if my dogs are still like this, years later. Wishing you the best, my friend. Make it happen.
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Last edited by YinPrincess; 11-10-2011 at 12:10 PM.