I think the 'Red Pill' is fantastic. Amazing. It is a shame most men proclaiming the red pill have not actually taken it.
Before the red pill many have this idea in life. You are a decent man, you should be able to find a decent woman. You should appreciate her and she should appreciate you. The End.
Thinking there is a way the world should be rather than the way it is, is the road to misery.
The truth is you will do anything you can to be happy and go wherever you think that is, which is typically wrong because you have the wrong idea of who 'you' are. The partner you find will be the same. Neither of us are fixed, out outlook is determined my our biology, our experiences and cultural background; all of which are changing all the time.
There are gold diggers, often they do not start that way, but suddenly are surprised to find that financial inducement makes them feel valued and run after happiness that way. The proper reaction to that is compassion, unless you think they should be another way and appreciate you instead.
The reason some men get stuck in the friend-zone is that they are not sexually attractive enough to the target of their affections. Fine, unless they think that there their targets should desire them and they get upset.
I know a girl who went out with a lad for six months. He was patient and did not push her for sex, as she had been through a hard time with an abusive partner. After six months and no sexual contact they parted ways. The next man along took her out twice and they started having sex.
A 'Redpiller' might use this as evidence that being understanding gets you nowhere and you have to be Alpha. In actual fact, understand that she wanted intimacy and sexual contact, but needed the reassurance of a man who realized this and was like an experienced surgeon "You're scared? Of course, but you will see there is no need to worry!" rather than "Oh, you are so hurt and fragile, we must be really careful". It was not being alpha as such, but actually being sensitive to her needs.
The red pill says that to have a connection with people you must understand their needs and wants as they are and as they see them. Many redpillers just focus on their own needs and get angry as the world does not conform. If they actually took the red pill, they would see people more clearly, have a better connection with them and actually care for them more.
Before the red pill many have this idea in life. You are a decent man, you should be able to find a decent woman. You should appreciate her and she should appreciate you. The End.
Thinking there is a way the world should be rather than the way it is, is the road to misery.
The truth is you will do anything you can to be happy and go wherever you think that is, which is typically wrong because you have the wrong idea of who 'you' are. The partner you find will be the same. Neither of us are fixed, out outlook is determined my our biology, our experiences and cultural background; all of which are changing all the time.
There are gold diggers, often they do not start that way, but suddenly are surprised to find that financial inducement makes them feel valued and run after happiness that way. The proper reaction to that is compassion, unless you think they should be another way and appreciate you instead.
The reason some men get stuck in the friend-zone is that they are not sexually attractive enough to the target of their affections. Fine, unless they think that there their targets should desire them and they get upset.
I know a girl who went out with a lad for six months. He was patient and did not push her for sex, as she had been through a hard time with an abusive partner. After six months and no sexual contact they parted ways. The next man along took her out twice and they started having sex.
A 'Redpiller' might use this as evidence that being understanding gets you nowhere and you have to be Alpha. In actual fact, understand that she wanted intimacy and sexual contact, but needed the reassurance of a man who realized this and was like an experienced surgeon "You're scared? Of course, but you will see there is no need to worry!" rather than "Oh, you are so hurt and fragile, we must be really careful". It was not being alpha as such, but actually being sensitive to her needs.
The red pill says that to have a connection with people you must understand their needs and wants as they are and as they see them. Many redpillers just focus on their own needs and get angry as the world does not conform. If they actually took the red pill, they would see people more clearly, have a better connection with them and actually care for them more.