Hello All! I just want to apoligze in advance if I posted this in the wrong spot or am writing something thats been discused a million times on here. I'm new so please forgive me.
I would like to start off telling you about my wedding. After a wonderful day, full of everything I expected, the drinking got havier and the dancing started. I had a hard time eating or drinking because of anixtey. I danced the night away and hardly seen my new husband. When I wanted to see him I could easily find him at the bar. My new husband was SO drunk he was cut off from the bar and making a HUGE embarrassing secne. He was sooo drunk he was yelling at his Father, my Mother, myself and the staff. After we finally got him calmed down we went to our hotel. They gave our room away and ended up driving around twn for awhile looking for a new one. Being in a bad mood already, the hotel just made things WAY worse. He was yelling and screaming at his BIL and myself..He took his ring off and told me to leave over 5 times that night. All because I didnt understand why he was so upset. I said several times who cares about the hotel we can work all that out tomorrow but tonight is out wedding night. When we finally got to our hotel room I refused to sleep in the same bed as him as he said some pretty hurtful things. In the am he gave me a half hearted "sorry". From that night on things havent been what I expected. My head is not in the clouds thinking after we were married things would be magical but I thought we'd have alittle more love towards eachother.
My husband and I fight alot..over his Mother and his family. They say terrible things to me and about me and I never say anything back. If I bring it up to my husband he calls me gulity of things and yells. And i'm not even the one who said anything. He does NOT stand up for me or respect any of my opinions. I know, I had to stand up for myself but i'd like some back up. I would never want him to turn his back on his family but I would also like some help.
The other night, we had a couple of friends over and my husband had some beers. When he drinks he gets very mean and he just doesn't stop. I can walk away from an argument and he stands by himself yelling for a pretty long time. He doesn't drink every day or need to drink but I think theres a problem. I've brought it up and he just ignores me.
I'm not sure where i'm going with this post, I might have just needed a vent. I've brought up to him several times my problems with our relationship and nothing ever seems to get sloved. Hes not even nice to me...Im jsut not sure what to do. We havent even been married for 6 months and our problems are this big already. What do I do? How do I make myself clear to him that I need things to change? If you've been in a similar situition what did you do?
I'm sorry this was SO long and I appericate any feedback given.
Thanks for listening.