DivaRandal

He is my own first cousin and i am very worried about him so please take the pain in going through this.
He met his current wife at a bar in early 2004(he was 24 then) with whom he claimed was love at first sight.he asked for her phone number and she gave it to him saying if you can memorize it then call.he called the next day and they dated for a while soon getting engaged in December 2005
however my cousin was considered a very wicked upstart newcomer at his workplace(he is a theater actor) but was regarded by many as gods gift to women.but this went into his head and he used to sexually harrass women who rejected him or would get verbally abusive and call them the C word.
he would flirt and hit on plenty of women while being engaged and while dating his fiance.
He overdosed on drugs once in 2006 and stopped breathing and was saved when the fiance called the ambulance .
he realized his mistakes about drugs and getting verbally abusive and nipped these parts of him in the bud
But in 2006 he began discussing of baby names when he was actually got married in September 2007 as he wanted a baby quick!
And the same year pictures surfaced of him and a younger looking girl sitting on his lap while my cousin was showing off his wedding ring to the camera!
In 2007 also he got platonic with a girl half his age by repeatedly kissing her on the head or cheeks or hugging her or lifting her up in his arms..
however he did get a tattoo of his fiance's name early in 2007.
He had his first baby,a daughter in July 2008 which changed him a bit.
But In June 2011(now hes 31) he thrashed his 24 year old friend and colleague by revealing her sexual antics on radio,the number of men he knows she slept with and who's she sleeping with while hes talking and in August he said he's a fan of the same friend which this girl and my cousin were great friends fir the last 5 years.i saw a picture of him posing very closely with her(arm on her waist,body tilted) which was not of his workplace,it looked like they were going somewhere,
And a recent photograph and video came out showing him with a blonde girl with whom he was cuddling from behind,touching her head or face or bending to kiss her head and wrapped his arms aound her chest,and was laughing and joking.It was taken at a restaurant as i could make out.
the person had made a video of it refused to mention where she put up the video even when i asked her.She didn't say a word about it.
All these girls are blondes and petite.and younger than him.
.His wife does nothing except dressing up in flashy clothes and hanging out with friends and getting her pictures clicked.Shes seldom seen with her child.
my cousin is the one who is always seen with the child,either teaching her swimming,or holding her in her arms,teaching her and the child also seems attached to her father.
my cousin and his wife are seldom seen talking though they go to public places or events together..His total attention is on his daughter.
This couple also had to act in a documentary where they had to act out a few kissing scenes or scenes showing the guy bonding with his family(real) but when the whole scene was shown everyone had one thing to comment that it looked contrived and unnatural.
one scene was there that suddenly my cousin comes up where the wife is standing and smiling for him, he stands for a while and,he walks oddly and they just kiss and the guy bends his head down gets serious after it while the wife is still smiling!
then again another kiss but it looked false as the critics said too.
even when the cameras are rolling the duo hardly talk and are shown only getting intimate.
the wife suddenly comes hugs him when hes wearing his bags,preparing to leave for work.
these scenes were asked to enact but it looked so weird.as if two people who don't want to do this but have to do it.
By the way hes quite wealthy.
Married for 4 years.
He shouldnt have married in the first place if this was it.
what will be the outcome???
I am very worried.

expatforlife

People get married and stay married for a multitude of reasons. The marriage is between those two people, they can make any agreement they want in that marriage. That is why there is open marriages and marriages of convenience for example.

If there is abuse it is different; otherwise just because its not the marriage that is your ideal doesn't mean its not theirs. If they are unhappy they have ways out of it. If they choose to at some point in time separate/divorce then you can be a shoulder to lean on.

Same thing applies to having kids. As long as they are not abused, then one loving parent is better than none. Generally you can't go around telling people who can and can't have kids. We all know someone who probably shouldn't have kids but there they are.

Granted he was rude to some people and was disrespectful to some others but that really just shows to his character.

Has he asked you for help? Told you he didn't want to be married any further? Why do you care what others say about his marriage?