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I am a female and would date/marry a bisexual male 3 6.00%
I am a female and would NOT date/marry a bisexual male 13 26.00%
I am a male and would date/marry a bisexual female 14 28.00%
I am a male and would NOT date/marry a bisexual female 20 40.00%
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And finally....he said that when he was a young man, he knew another young man who was gay. He said he himself was not gay or bi in any way, but that sometimes he would "use the young man like a woman". This was apparently not uncommon. He said this was how a lot of gay men were able to have frequent sex, since being gay was totally taboo still when he was young. But it was known that a certain percentage of men were gay so there was a sort of arrangement made between horny straight guys and gay guys where the horny straight guy could get off and the gay guy would just give. There was no confusion about whether the straight guy was straight or not, he was. And there was no confusion of whether or not the gay guy was gay, he was, and he knew the straight guys were straight.
This is not uncommon here in the US, either.

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I live in the midwest. We're fairly conservative and very blue collar round here. Yet, if you drive down a certain road in a very populated area you will see a nondescript building labeled as a men's health club. Inside, you can get a year membership for about $40 and pay $10 a visit. There are sauna's, a pool, a locker room, showers, TV's showing gay porn, benches and private or semi-private rooms with men having all forms of sex with each other, and even a room that looks like something out of Arabian Nights. It's a bathhouse. And, even in the age of the online NSA hook-up, it's parking lot is PACKED in the evening, late night, and early morning.

I've known men who have gone there. The majority of those guys are straight and will tell anyone who asks that they are straight. They believe themselves to be straight. But they are desperate for sexual contact with another human, cannot find a female partner for some reason (usually married), and come to this in-person anonymous place to get an easy handy or a BJ and then go home. Typically, the horny gay or truly bi guys give and the straight guys receive without reciprocating. True ships passing in the night stuff. Two (or more) guys sit or hang out in an area, catch each other's eye, do whatever they are into, and part ways. No names, no muss, no fuss, no drama.

I knew guys in HS who were openly gay and passed out BJ's like candy to the straight guys who never had oral before and/or who were desperately horny.

I've seen straight women get all loopy emotional after a divorce or LTR break up accept all kinds of attention and affection from another woman, including receiving oral. They're in a bad place, need the comfort.


It seems for both genders, those who identify as hetero but have had sexual contact with same sex partners do it for the same reasons. A desperate need for the touch of another person, the sexual release, to feel desirable/accepted by another human are the primary motivations, not sexual attraction to the same sex.


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I live in the midwest. We're fairly conservative and very blue collar round here. Yet, if you drive down a certain road in a very populated area you will see a nondescript building labeled as a men's health club. Inside, you can get a year membership for about $40 and pay $10 a visit. There are sauna's, a pool, a locker room, showers, TV's showing gay porn, benches and private or semi-private rooms with men having all forms of sex with each other, and even a room that looks like something out of Arabian Nights. It's a bathhouse. And, even in the age of the online NSA hook-up, it's parking lot is PACKED in the evening, late night, and early morning.


The worse thing I have seen in the gym locker room are the old guys buck naked, one leg up on the bench, drying their balls with a hair dryer (not joking lol). I guess that is not all that bad considering the type of "gyms" you mention above
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The worse thing I have seen in the gym locker room are the old guys buck naked, one leg up on the bench, drying their balls with a hair dryer (not joking lol). I guess that is not all that bad considering the type of "gyms" you mention above
I have a vivid imagination and a bad case of the giggles. With all the manscaping, you'd think the men's locker room wouldn't be a horror show anymore.
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This is not uncommon here in the US, either.

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I live in the midwest. We're fairly conservative and very blue collar round here. Yet, if you drive down a certain road in a very populated area you will see a nondescript building labeled as a men's health club. Inside, you can get a year membership for about $40 and pay $10 a visit. There are sauna's, a pool, a locker room, showers, TV's showing gay porn, benches and private or semi-private rooms with men having all forms of sex with each other, and even a room that looks like something out of Arabian Nights. It's a bathhouse. And, even in the age of the online NSA hook-up, it's parking lot is PACKED in the evening, late night, and early morning.

I've known men who have gone there. The majority of those guys are straight and will tell anyone who asks that they are straight. They believe themselves to be straight. But they are desperate for sexual contact with another human, cannot find a female partner for some reason (usually married), and come to this in-person anonymous place to get an easy handy or a BJ and then go home. Typically, the horny gay or truly bi guys give and the straight guys receive without reciprocating. True ships passing in the night stuff. Two (or more) guys sit or hang out in an area, catch each other's eye, do whatever they are into, and part ways. No names, no muss, no fuss, no drama.

I knew guys in HS who were openly gay and passed out BJ's like candy to the straight guys who never had oral before and/or who were desperately horny.

I've seen straight women get all loopy emotional after a divorce or LTR break up accept all kinds of attention and affection from another woman, including receiving oral. They're in a bad place, need the comfort.


It seems for both genders, those who identify as hetero but have had sexual contact with same sex partners do it for the same reasons. A desperate need for the touch of another person, the sexual release, to feel desirable/accepted by another human are the primary motivations, not sexual attraction to the same sex.
Yeah, desperation can cause someone to kill someone else, or rob them, or even worse (see: Donner Party). I have never been so desperate that I couldn't take care of my own needs. I'm guessing these people had to have bisexual leanings. As a heterosexual, I just can't imagine needing attention so bad that I would go to a gay gym for it.

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Yeah, desperation can cause someone to kill someone else, or rob them, or even worse (see: Donner Party). I have never been so desperate that I couldn't take care of my own needs. I'm guessing these people had to have bisexual leanings. As a heterosexual, I just can't imagine needing attention so bad that I would go to a gay gym for it.
It's been described to me as not so much a physical desperation, although that was certainly present, but a mental/emotional desperation for the sexual touch of another human. ANY other human.
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It's been described to me as not so much a physical desperation, although that was certainly present, but a mental/emotional desperation for the sexual touch of another human. ANY other human.
Wouldn't a prostitute fill that role better though?

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Wouldn't a prostitute fill that role better though?
Heck, I would settle for some warm apple pie before I even entertained the thought of another dude ...
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Heck, I would settle for some warm apple pie before I even entertained the thought of another dude ...
As long as it's American pie...


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Wouldn't a prostitute fill that role better though?
Assuming you can afford one and know where to find them. AFAIK, strippers overcharge for services and you don't see many streetwalkers anymore. Online is an option, but a time sink unless you have already BTDT. This method is much easier and quicker. In and out in less than 30 min. Plus, a lot of guys feel mentally and emotionally worse if they have to pay for it. And bathhouses and such are legal, where getting a hooker could result in arrest, fines, a court appearance, and your car being impounded. Not to mention an appearance in the local newspaper Off the Blotter...
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Depends on the person, I suppose.

Obviously she'd have to be willing to commit to exclusivity. (Actually, she'd have to want to commit to exclusivity... and w/ me. )

And of course she'd have to be a principled enough person to either hold to that or -- at the very least -- come to me to initiate a honest discussion in the event that she wanted to change that, thereby allowing me the dignity of an informed decision.

Honestly, though, I'd have the same concerns regarding a hetero potential partner.

Also, knowing about her sexuality ahead of time would obviously be key. Let's say, for example, that I found out years later -- possibly after marriage, children, mortgages, pets, etc -- that she were bi:

Worst case has her cheating on me throughout our marriage, and possibly w/ both men and women, thereby exposing me to only God knows what... which would obviously be pretty horrible.

Best case, though, means that I may very well have unknowingly kept her from exploring that facet of her sexuality, which would leave me feeling pretty crappy. (That said, each of us is obviously accountable for our own individual sexuality, and there's really no blame that can realistically be laid at anyone else's feet for any failure or refusal -- for whatever reason -- to explore it. Still... I wouldn't feel great about it.)
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This is not uncommon here in the US, either.

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I live in the midwest. We're fairly conservative and very blue collar round here. Yet, if you drive down a certain road in a very populated area you will see a nondescript building labeled as a men's health club. Inside, you can get a year membership for about $40 and pay $10 a visit. There are sauna's, a pool, a locker room, showers, TV's showing gay porn, benches and private or semi-private rooms with men having all forms of sex with each other, and even a room that looks like something out of Arabian Nights. It's a bathhouse. And, even in the age of the online NSA hook-up, it's parking lot is PACKED in the evening, late night, and early morning.

I've known men who have gone there. The majority of those guys are straight and will tell anyone who asks that they are straight. They believe themselves to be straight. But they are desperate for sexual contact with another human, cannot find a female partner for some reason (usually married), and come to this in-person anonymous place to get an easy handy or a BJ and then go home. Typically, the horny gay or truly bi guys give and the straight guys receive without reciprocating. True ships passing in the night stuff. Two (or more) guys sit or hang out in an area, catch each other's eye, do whatever they are into, and part ways. No names, no muss, no fuss, no drama.

I knew guys in HS who were openly gay and passed out BJ's like candy to the straight guys who never had oral before and/or who were desperately horny.

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It seems for both genders, those who identify as hetero but have had sexual contact with same sex partners do it for the same reasons. A desperate need for the touch of another person, the sexual release, to feel desirable/accepted by another human are the primary motivations, not sexual attraction to the same sex.
I believe you, but even in the dark days of my sexual desert I could not imagine doing that, and still cannot.

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I believe you, but even in the dark days of my sexual desert I could not imagine doing that, and still cannot.
Me, either, but there definitely are some any port in a storm people out there.

Strange time to bring up church, but... We're Catholic. During Mass, we do the Sign of Peace (hug/handshake and a "Christ be with you" for those who don't attend church) and both at Mass and on Catholic forums I hear people complain about having to hug or shake the hand of other parishioners. Our priest once mentioned that the only human contact some people get is during Mass. It's sad how many lonely people are out there. I can see how someone might be that desperate.
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