I'm not sure if I'm having a life crisis or what...but I got engaged at 18...married by 19...and now my husband and I are "taking a break to work on ourselves" and I feel like a teenager. I've basically been going around doing things I want to do for myself without necessarily considering adult responsibilities and consequences. I have been traveling around and having fun, but now my husband is insisting that I come back. I'm not sure what he expected from this break, because he said he wanted us to come back together when we both felt ready. On my end, I think we've gotten nowhere. He's only gone to one counseling session and the two of us haven't had a long serious conversation about how things are going to change when I get back. We also haven't been relating too much while I've been away- he doesn't call me and he occassionally sends me a text message. I don't really feel a great passion between us and burning longing to be reunited. The original plan was for me to return in January after spending the holidays with my family and now I'm also a little resentful that he's abruptly rushing me to return.
Part of me wants to continue enjoying myself, but the other part wants me to give up the fantasy and just go back to being a serious married adult who thinks about the future and not just today. I just don't know exactly how a separation is supposed to work- what should people be doing while separated in order to salvage the situation and not drive the wedge between them deeper? Because I'm starting to feel like the latter has occurred.
Any thoughts?
Part of me wants to continue enjoying myself, but the other part wants me to give up the fantasy and just go back to being a serious married adult who thinks about the future and not just today. I just don't know exactly how a separation is supposed to work- what should people be doing while separated in order to salvage the situation and not drive the wedge between them deeper? Because I'm starting to feel like the latter has occurred.
Any thoughts?