Some people believe that once we’re in a relationship or married, that we’re supposed to be willing to sacrifice ANYTHING in order for our partner to be ‘comfortable’ in his/her own skin, and for us to continue in the relationship.
But I believe that there is such a thing as TOO MUCH 'sacrificing' to the point of using "love" in order to manipulate or take advantage of 'us'.
I once had a (heated)discussion with my late husband about this very issue. He told me, “A person should only make a sacrifice once in a while.” Yet, he expected ME to constantly make sacrifices for his sake.
While I agree that some sacrifices may be necessary in order to keep the relationship going, there can come a point where our partner may be asking too much of us and the sacrifice becomes unreasonable. When this happens, our partner can counter with, "If you love me you would..." which, in *my* book is often pure manipulation and is setting us up to take advantage of us (which is NOT 'love').
At what point do 'sacrifices' become unreasonable?
How much should we sacrifice for the sake of "love"? Do we sacrifice our friends? Our job? Our children? Our home? Our finances? Traveling? Hobbies? Pets? Future plans? Our hair style? Mode of dress? Tastes? Ideas? Religion?
When is it not "love" anymore?
But I believe that there is such a thing as TOO MUCH 'sacrificing' to the point of using "love" in order to manipulate or take advantage of 'us'.
I once had a (heated)discussion with my late husband about this very issue. He told me, “A person should only make a sacrifice once in a while.” Yet, he expected ME to constantly make sacrifices for his sake.
While I agree that some sacrifices may be necessary in order to keep the relationship going, there can come a point where our partner may be asking too much of us and the sacrifice becomes unreasonable. When this happens, our partner can counter with, "If you love me you would..." which, in *my* book is often pure manipulation and is setting us up to take advantage of us (which is NOT 'love').
At what point do 'sacrifices' become unreasonable?
How much should we sacrifice for the sake of "love"? Do we sacrifice our friends? Our job? Our children? Our home? Our finances? Traveling? Hobbies? Pets? Future plans? Our hair style? Mode of dress? Tastes? Ideas? Religion?
When is it not "love" anymore?