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Married 18+ years BIG PROBLEM I need advice Badly! I am the Husband!

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I will try to make this quick and simple. I work in the entertainment industry without saying who I am let's just say I am around and know lots of people worldwide who I work with on a daily basis be it web design, music, promotion, concerts etc: Here is my issue some of the women I work with are models and even if they are not they dress very provocative it is their job to do so being on magazines and all. Even the women who are not models dress in a way that shows they are strong feeling about how they look. Well my wife not so much. We will be shopping and "I am into fashion I love to shop" and I will say that looks great and she is like "i can't wear that blah blah people will think this or that" and I am like ok with a smile. Inside I am dieing because she looked great in that. To make matters worse I am a complete hornball. I literally think about sex tons, i want to have sex like at least 2 times per day, I enjoy being very open with sex meaning anywhere any time that excitement really turns me on. I prefer to satify her first ALWAYS I means I will be honest there are times when I am like oh no cant hold it and I am done but for themost part I make it a conscious effort to please her first. Now saying all of that we have sex 1 a week "maybe" its over in 30 minutes I am expected to work in this environment with women basically turning me on all day every day " I will note I am completely 1 million % monogamous I have kids I believe in a storng family but people ANYONE this is really causing a problem for me. I am a good father I believe I am a good husband we all have our faults I just want to be sexually pleased allot by the person that I love most. I cannot express myself like this to her it would hurt her feelings talking about other women turning me on but I mean I am sorry look at this equation > Man loves sex 2 times per day anywhere any time freaky is great + Models and women who dress very professional and sexy around this man - A wife who gives this man sex 1 time per week = A horny man walking around all the time slightly frustrated and wondering "if all of these other models and women want to have sex with me "I get hit on daily it comes with my job" in my job either you are loyal or you are divorced its as simple as that. I love my family we have 5 kids together i love my wife I really want to enjoy her more but I am at the ropes end people:

Frustrated, Confused, Man. Please help!
 
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Sounds like you have several problems. The biggest one being a lack of communication and acceptance on both your wife and your part. You shouldn't be looking to have an affair but you can't help how your body reacts to things. Focus on making your relationship with your wife better and talk through how you feel about everything including the frequency of the sex and what turns you on. If you improve your sex life for both you and her she might want sex more often and the more fulfilling sex for you means that having to take care of yourself a couple times a week shouldn't be that big of a deal.
 
#47 ·
thatguyoverthere,

your wife can change, mine did, but it's a team effort. Communication with her is your best friend here.

My wife was similarly loathed to dress sexy, but as we spent more time together, we opened up. It was a gradual process and it's getting better. She's become "more sexy", has more fun with me. Have fun with her in other ways and the good sex will come :grin2:

Let us know how it goes.
 
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