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post #16 of 25 (permalink) Old 10-02-2016, 01:13 PM Thread Starter
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@Cooper- To be honest, I don't know all the details. I never asked them- nor did I care about the vetting process. Back when I was 16, I was actually offended that they'd invade my beloved's privacy like that, but now I understand why they did it, of course. So much could have gone wrong. I do know a few hired lawyers and PIs were involved. As to what, specifically, I did, I honestly don't know. They said "trolling" because my story about meeting my husband at 16 and marrying at 18, combined with my rather dramatic style of writing, meant that I couldn't possibly be telling the truth. I wasn't aware having an outrageous backstory was a bannable offense.

@john117: Aww, how lovely! I was hoping to hear similar stories to mine. I knew I couldn't be the only one. If I may ask, how are they doing now? are they still together? Any kids, etc?

@Tatsuhiko: Yes, that's pretty much exactly how it went. If my husband AND my parents die, I- and my family's inheritance- would go and live with my elderly aunt in the country. My parents did not think this one through, as my aunt is older than they are. They're having their will changed, though, now that I'm an adult, and I of course get much more say in whom I'd stay with under such tragic circumstances.


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If my husband AND my parents die, I- and my family's inheritance- would go and live with my elderly aunt in the country. My parents did not think this one through, as my aunt is older than they are.
People don't die at the same age. Your aunt is or was their best choice for you in the event of their death, and as long as she's alive and in good health and in control of her mental faculties then there's no reason for her not to be tagged as your guardian in the event of their demise.
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@EllaSuaveterre Don't worry! There are a lot of unbelievable stories here on TAM.

I have difficulty believing my story. But I know it is all true, as I lived through the darn thing!

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@EllaSuaveterre Don't worry! There are a lot of unbelievable stories here on TAM.

I have difficulty believing my story. But I know it is all true, as I lived through the darn thing!
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How can you be sure this isn't all just a dream?
That's easy @caruso, I couldn't dream up someone as fascinating as you!

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How can you be sure this isn't all just a dream?

More like a recurring nightmare.

One that won't stop. :-)


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Trying to understand WHY you would be banned from another forum.. over this story you are sharing ?? Were their heated exchanges or something ?

I know of a couple where she married at 16.. he was 24 at the time (or maybe 23)...they have 5 kids today, close knit family.. both wanted the same things... they did live in the same area though, no health issues or anything like that...

This is the phenomenal part of your story.. this man committing to you.. with the issues you have spoken here... Cerebral Palsy, an invalid ...and panic attacks ....how are you today?? Just imagining...health care is incredibly expensive in the united states.. even with Insurance.. if one has ongoing problems...this often overtakes a couple's life sucking every dime from them, then adding unthinkable debt ..... I see people having fund raisers just so they can pay their co-pays for cancer, thousands & thousands they do not have.

Does your husband have any health issues himself.. what do you & he have in common ?? So the love is starting to wane...you want to shoot it some dopamine (always helps!)....what do you & he do for enjoyment.. how is the sex ??

You mentioned how your parents paid for his ticket over here & this is when he decided to give it a go.. and see what happens... I hate to ask this.. but are your parents wealthy by any chance?
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Trying to understand WHY you would be banned from another forum.. over this story you are sharing ?? Were their heated exchanges or something ?

I know of a couple where she married at 16.. he was 24 at the time (or maybe 23)...they have 5 kids today, close knit family.. both wanted the same things... they did live in the same area though, no health issues or anything like that...

This is the phenomenal part of your story.. this man committing to you.. with the issues you have spoken here... Cerebral Palsy, an invalid ...and panic attacks ....how are you today?? Just imagining...health care is incredibly expensive in the united states.. even with Insurance.. if one has ongoing problems...this often overtakes a couple's life sucking every dime from them, then adding unthinkable debt ..... I see people having fund raisers just so they can pay their co-pays for cancer, thousands & thousands they do not have.

Does your husband have any health issues himself.. what do you & he have in common ?? So the love is starting to wane...you want to shoot it some dopamine (always helps!)....what do you & he do for enjoyment.. how is the sex ??

You mentioned how your parents paid for his ticket over here & this is when he decided to give it a go.. and see what happens... I hate to ask this.. but are your parents wealthy by any chance?
As to how I am, I'm okay. Better in some ways. I'm more functional with the anxiety and depression than I was. My cerebral palsy, however, is somehow worse at the moment, in spite of it not being a "progressive" disease as such. I still have occasional panic attacks and nightmares, but they are just that, occasional... not daily anymore.

So far we haven't had enormous financial problems. My husband got a job working at my father's company. At first he worked directly for my father who was/is in upper management, and therefore my father controlled his salary and was more than able to furnish us with a good life. Now that my father is retiring he works for the CEO of the company. I fear sometimes that my husband's new boss might be less generous than my father was, but as I said so far we haven't had any issues. We're quite comfortable for now.

I'm still under my father's health insurance, and will be for about 2 more years. We've begun saving up for the day I turn 26 and must buy my own insurance. I used to be very afraid of the day I'd have to come off my dad's insurance, but I'm more confident that we can find something affordable, which covers most- if not all- of the basic treatments I'll need. My husband tells me it won't be as awful as I've read about.


We have many interests in common, Mr. Suaveterre and I. He likes pretty much all the same movies and games I do, and since we're both extremely shy and introverted, we are each other's only real friends. He has work acquaintances and a few people we occasionally go out to bars with, but we haven't anyone close we would call true friends. As to the sex... well, to be honest, it's lacking. We were both virgins before marrying and I have medical issues which can make sex painful. I do have the higher sex drive, however. I can tell he finds me attractive, but when we do make love, 95% of the time I initiate it. Even after 5 years of marriage we have yet to learn how to truly pleasure each other, and have only just figured out the basic mechanics of the act.

As to my family's wealth... I don't know, to be honest. As a child, I never wanted for anything. I got whatever I asked for, but we didn't live in a mansion or anything. We didn't have hired help outside of a nurse for my grandmother and one for me. We didn't have a maid or a cook or a vacation home or anything you'd assume wealthy people would have. We lived in an ordinary middle-class neighborhood until I was 16 and my parents had finished paying off my medical bills. Then we were able to move into a much nicer home. My father tells me I will get a significant amount of money in an inheritance when he dies, but he refuses to tell me how much, not even an estimate.

P.S. I have NO IDEA why I was banned from Loveshack.org. I'm every bit as confused as you are.

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I say this because I'm guessing this guy must have a bit of White Night Syndrome to have married you, a young girl with disabilities and mental health issues, over time his need to protect and support you can easily turn into resentment, very typical progression in that kind of relationship.
I don't mind if he has White Knight Syndrome; I enjoy feeling protected and cared for. That said, what is this you mentioned about it growing into resentment? One of my worst fears is that he will grow to resent me because he has to look after me. There's not a lot I can do to prevent this except to shower him with affection and try to be as understanding as I can of his needs. You mentioned contribution, which is difficult because I cannot drive and my physical capabilities are not likely to get any better. Indeed, as I age, they may get worse. I'm not really sure. That said, after I graduate I do intend to look for work, either from home as an editor for an online publication, or at a call center, or- perhaps, only perhaps- in a brick and mortar business a an office. The latter doesn't seem likely as I'd need to pay for a cab twice a day and I'm not sure if Uber would devour my entire minimum-wage paycheck. Not even mentioning my anxiety of new, stressful, competitive environments.
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Trying to understand WHY you would be banned from another forum.. over this story you are sharing ?? Were their heated exchanges or something ?

I know of a couple where she married at 16.. he was 24 at the time (or maybe 23)...they have 5 kids today, close knit family.. both wanted the same things... they did live in the same area though, no health issues or anything like that...

This is the phenomenal part of your story.. this man committing to you.. with the issues you have spoken here... Cerebral Palsy, an invalid ...and panic attacks ....how are you today?? Just imagining...health care is incredibly expensive in the united states.. even with Insurance.. if one has ongoing problems...this often overtakes a couple's life sucking every dime from them, then adding unthinkable debt ..... I see people having fund raisers just so they can pay their co-pays for cancer, thousands & thousands they do not have.

Does your husband have any health issues himself.. what do you & he have in common ?? So the love is starting to wane...you want to shoot it some dopamine (always helps!)....what do you & he do for enjoyment.. how is the sex ??

You mentioned how your parents paid for his ticket over here & this is when he decided to give it a go.. and see what happens... I hate to ask this.. but are your parents wealthy by any chance?
Member of the other site here. I recognize this story, though I never posted on her threads over there.

From what I saw over there, she posted too much personal information which led several posters to do some research on her. They found posts on multiple other websites that contradicted many of the things this poster was saying, which led most people over there to believe that she is not being truthful about some, if not all, aspects of her life. I believe this was reported to the moderators over there, which is what led to the ban.

I personally have no idea what the contradictory posts were as I didn't see them, but this story is quite unrealistic so I have trouble believing it.

OP, I wish you the best of luck. I will not be returning to this thread and I encourage everyone else to decide for themselves whether or not this poster is being honest about her life.

My apologies if I offended anyone with this.

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