11-25-2011, 02:14 PM
Join Date: Nov 2011
| | Turned Off
Just feeling blue. Pretty well sexless marriage. I am not in the least bit turned on by my husband of 17 years. We have three kids, and I find he is so often needlessly hard on them that my desire to be intimate with him is killed. He is not someone who values being nice, or kind. Ninety percent of our conversations revolve around his job, his desire to quit at any time, (which make me feel chronically insecure) and money. We both have good stable careers, but I am bored to death with his focus on material wealth. I often think I was insecure when I decided to marry him, otherwise I would have chosen someone kinder. But unless I want to break up our family because my husband isnít nice enough, then I am stuck with this. He is from France and we live in North America, and part of me realises this is simply cultural differences, but he is such a hard-ass that I am exhausted.
I was quite attracted to him years ago, but even then I knew the chemistry was pretty low, I was more attracted to our differences and his smartness. Years later - I am turned off. What to doÖ..this is so depressing.