Heya everyone,
Just wanted run this by you and get some of your opinions on it...
My husband works away for 2 weeks at a time and 2 weeks at home whilst away he and his colleagues live at sea, his colleagues are predominantly male with the exceptionn of a few of the cleaning staff who are female.
My husband was in the canteen one afternoon and one of the cleaners came in to make tea and they got talking, just general chit chat but when my husband told her he was going home in a few days and she asked him would he do her a favour, as he was travelling back to the uk/Ireland she asked could he go to a lingerie shop we have here which isn't available in her country. She then went on to say what she needed and so on (lingerie) and asked would my husband mind getting it for her when he was home, to which he replied he would have to ask his wife first.
When he told me I was stunned but part of me was angry at him for not telling her no there and then, he was married and would never go into a lingerie shop for another woman.
We got into a bit of a row and after I thought about it I felt she was coming on to him, I mean why else would a woman ask that and then talk about lingerie with someone else's husband?
So I asked him to report it as it was very unprofessional and it made me very uneasy and I would need to make sure it didn't happen again, he refused, saying he didn't want to get her into trouble which I can understand but I have trust issues with him as he cheated once in the past, so I feel he should really be doing whatever it takes to put my mind and ease as I was crying and distraught. If that means getting someone into trouble so be it, I feel my feelings should come first and he should understand that because of his past.
Anyways he refused and we didn't speak for several days and then he got in contact and apologised, told me would report it and that was the subject closed. He came home and it wasn't mentioned and I just knew it wasn't reported it because if he had he would of told me how it went.
So after he's home around a week I ask him and he tells me he did report it but I know he's lying, I ask what her name is and he says he doesn't know, which I don't believe as she felt comfortable enough to ask him to bring her some lingerie back, How can you not be on first name terms with someone if you are comfortable enough to ask that, and especially as they are all sharing living quarters. He then admits he didn't report it but still Insists he doesn't know her name.
I am furious because he's lying to me and I have trust issues with him already. The lingerie chain in question delivers to her country for a mere £4.99, so not exactly expensive.
Part of me thinks well he told me, so there must not be anything to hide but part of me is very uncomfortable with this.
Can anyone give me some insight into you make of this situation.
P.s thank you for reading.
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Just wanted run this by you and get some of your opinions on it...
My husband works away for 2 weeks at a time and 2 weeks at home whilst away he and his colleagues live at sea, his colleagues are predominantly male with the exceptionn of a few of the cleaning staff who are female.
My husband was in the canteen one afternoon and one of the cleaners came in to make tea and they got talking, just general chit chat but when my husband told her he was going home in a few days and she asked him would he do her a favour, as he was travelling back to the uk/Ireland she asked could he go to a lingerie shop we have here which isn't available in her country. She then went on to say what she needed and so on (lingerie) and asked would my husband mind getting it for her when he was home, to which he replied he would have to ask his wife first.
When he told me I was stunned but part of me was angry at him for not telling her no there and then, he was married and would never go into a lingerie shop for another woman.
We got into a bit of a row and after I thought about it I felt she was coming on to him, I mean why else would a woman ask that and then talk about lingerie with someone else's husband?
So I asked him to report it as it was very unprofessional and it made me very uneasy and I would need to make sure it didn't happen again, he refused, saying he didn't want to get her into trouble which I can understand but I have trust issues with him as he cheated once in the past, so I feel he should really be doing whatever it takes to put my mind and ease as I was crying and distraught. If that means getting someone into trouble so be it, I feel my feelings should come first and he should understand that because of his past.
Anyways he refused and we didn't speak for several days and then he got in contact and apologised, told me would report it and that was the subject closed. He came home and it wasn't mentioned and I just knew it wasn't reported it because if he had he would of told me how it went.
So after he's home around a week I ask him and he tells me he did report it but I know he's lying, I ask what her name is and he says he doesn't know, which I don't believe as she felt comfortable enough to ask him to bring her some lingerie back, How can you not be on first name terms with someone if you are comfortable enough to ask that, and especially as they are all sharing living quarters. He then admits he didn't report it but still Insists he doesn't know her name.
I am furious because he's lying to me and I have trust issues with him already. The lingerie chain in question delivers to her country for a mere £4.99, so not exactly expensive.
Part of me thinks well he told me, so there must not be anything to hide but part of me is very uncomfortable with this.
Can anyone give me some insight into you make of this situation.
P.s thank you for reading.
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