Re: Wife said yesterday she is no longer in love
Ok, a little back ground into how I found out. The signs were starting to become a little more visible. I am a die hard football fan. She started to take interest in it as well. And never had in 10 years. I was thown off. She was becoming colder and more distant. Last weekend, I watched the game in my mancave, and she had xmas movies on in the bedroom with out daughter, but she had the living room tv on and kept up with the score. Very unlike her. I had been talking to her cousin, who said if you had tried harder a month ago maybe you wouldn't be in this boat. So I was pretty much sure something was up. I confronted her, she lied. I went to counseling, she went in a seperate session, more for my benefit so the counselor knew what approach to take with me. She said she wasn't in love and wanted to move on.
Well, I was ok with that, sucked, but figured I would stick out the holidays, go through counseling and hope for the best, and accept the worst. Then I got an offer from the cell company to upgrade our plan because of overages and out of network textes. I knew her 2 of her cousins were out of network so I looked at the calls and there were 3 out of network numbers. And one of them had times that just fell into the only times I wasn't around. She had a new friend on facebook she knew from highschool, a few months ago. I was skeptical, but didn't want to be controlling... So I let it go, I had a friend call the new number, it was the FB friend. I confronted her. She admitted to "talking" to him and meeting him once, for lunch. But it is not a relationship. I don't know exactly how long its been, I don't think its a physical relationship but certainly emotional and at this point I don't believe a word she says anyway. Its time to figure out the logistics, but that will take a while. I need to get through counceling a little before I can be mature in talking about our future. But my guard is way up.