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Old 08-18-2009, 04:03 PM   #31 (permalink)
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JAH/JAW...

This thread turned refreshing when I read your posts

You seem to be in somewhat of a circle of 'mine happened long ago, yours is more recent' 'but yours is what caused me to pull away and start mine in the first place' 'etc.'

Bottom line, if you look at it from the others' perspective, your decisions did not make your spouse feel loved, cherished. You did them for selfish reasons because something was missing that you were not getting within your marriage and you decided to get it elsewhere...doesn't matter whether it's cheating or whose was worse, etc. The only thing that matters is you left your spouse feeling unloved, uncherished.

To see the love pour from both of you, it's clear you can both have a happy, stronger marraige than you've had the last 20+ years. A big part of it will be to leave the past resentment and current following the guy around the internet stuff behind you and just move forward together
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Old 08-18-2009, 04:12 PM   #32 (permalink)
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you aren't doing XYZ. Hints, clues, the "he should know what I need if he loves me" is a load of crap. If YOU NEED SOMETHING FROM HIM ------- TELL HIM STRAIGHT. US men are DENSE, we don't understand all the hints and clues you women "show us", it is not in our vocabulary. We aren't your girlfriends who pick up on that, we are DUMB. see hun we are dumb just ask this guy...
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Old 08-18-2009, 05:19 PM   #33 (permalink)
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do you know how long it's been since you called me hun?
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Old 08-18-2009, 06:05 PM   #34 (permalink)
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Male 42 Married 8yrs Never cheated on her
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Old 08-18-2009, 10:30 PM   #35 (permalink)
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female 28 married 2yrs been together 6 no never cheated
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Old 08-19-2009, 12:36 AM   #36 (permalink)
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Hi,

My wife is selfish in bed, she's a taker. I cheated several times with a woman that is a pleaser. She actually got sexually aroused by GIVING pleasure. Well it took me some time to get used to it but I did enjoy it, but had to end it as I never had any intentions of leaving wife. Am I a bad husband? well if you think so go ahead. I pleaded with her several times that I wasn't happy and told her specifically what the problem was. She never tried. I love my wife, but I needed some real satisfaction that she wouldn't even try to provide.
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Old 08-19-2009, 08:10 AM   #37 (permalink)
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Sonny,
I'm the last person to tell you what you should do or not do...maybe you and your wife should talk about a open Marriage? Was it the same women all the time, and did she know that it was only for the sex? Was you being safe not to bring home any little cridders for your wife? and did your wife know?

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Old 08-19-2009, 08:41 AM   #38 (permalink)
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do you know how long it's been since you called me hun?
hun i love you...
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Old 08-19-2009, 08:45 AM   #39 (permalink)
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Good Morning...Love you!
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Old 08-19-2009, 11:00 AM   #40 (permalink)
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Thats my girl>>>
LOVE YOU>>>>
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Old 08-19-2009, 11:16 AM   #41 (permalink)
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Cheated, no. Open marriage, yes. Still haven't "capitalized" on that, however. Divorce pending.
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Old 08-19-2009, 11:33 AM   #42 (permalink)
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Good Morning...Love you!
HUN....
I know that you are not perfect(but close) and nor can I claim to be either, but please believe me, when I say that I want to be by your side, to hold your hand, to treasure you in the morning and in the noon-tide, to be next to you, to be held close to your heart now and for the rest of my living years, to comfort you, dry your tears and calm your most frightening fears, to fight your battles and show no shame to scream my love for you out loud all over the land.
I LOVE YOU....
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Old 08-20-2009, 07:28 AM   #43 (permalink)
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I like the above - wish i had someone like that

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cheated no

But H has

it has taken me 2 years to figure out what I want
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Old 08-20-2009, 10:46 AM   #44 (permalink)
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Hugs and Kisses ...♥
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Female, twenty years old, married two years next month. I never cheated on my husband, but he did. He never slept with anyone, but the things he said to that girl that one night destroyed who we were.
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