Originally Posted by DanF
He's a cheerleader.
Or a dancer?
There is dividing line for man jobs and wuss jobs.
My wife could never respect a professional cheerleader. maybe it's the Neanderthal coming out, but I just cannot imagine a man in this profession being respected by a woman.
Well.. the majority of my income comes from fighting and training others to fight/look competent in martial arts. Which is way easier than training people in gymnastics or acro/adagio. I am, for lack of a better term, an expert in motion and body mechanics. I do aerial and partner work because it's fun, interesting, complicated, and I get paid for it. You can say whatever you want about my 'man' status.
A simple fact of my industry is that I am frequently working with the latest and hottest 18-25 year old women. There's slightly less turnover amongst the men I work with, but they tend to be young hot shots as well. My wife was well aware of all of this when we were dating.. it has never been any sort of secret. I chose my wife and I made vows to her. I make time for her and show her the attention and affection she deserves.
I'm frequently contracted to work with the women because:
1. I'm not creepy
2. I don't hit on them
Sue has been a pleasure because she also has a highly technical gymnastics background and can hold an intelligent conversation on topics with me that my wife cannot. While my wife and i have a lot of shared interests, conversation topics, and a lot of fun; It's like trying to discuss surgery with someone that isn't a surgeon. My wife has specialized knowledge on topics that I lack as well. I'm not saying she's beneath me by any stretch we are just specialized in different fields. I'm sure she has plenty of co-worker conversations and think tanks that she participates in where I'd be completely lost.
@TRy - I imagine at some point we will have a meal... but I don't drink so that's not an issue. If we did any sort of run with the show, it would only be limited to cirque guest performances a few times a month and maybe at most a 2 - 3 week run somewhere. Unfortunately, there's not enough money to justify making it any sort of cornerstone of my business. What I expect to happen is that we will train for 6 months... have another 6 months of shows off and on, and then she will want to travel with a cirque company and I won't... so she will find a new partner, or I'll train my replacement.
This all brings me full circle to what was my actual problem...
How do I make my wife more secure about the situation?
I'm not changing my profession & I have every intention of continuing to do partner work with Sue. I had stopped doing it years ago because my wife was insecure about the situation and I understood because of the girl that I was working with. It's still very fascinating for me and something I missed and wanted to work harder on.
The intricacy and difficulty of the performances are what make them interesting for me. I like technique and attention to detail. I like working with Sue because she's a nice girl and we're on the same page as far as what we are working towards. She's, also, just as much a perfectionist as I am.
Yes, she's attractive... but she can't NOT be for this type of act. She has the correct body proportions, strength, and flexibility.
My wife is insecure about the situation, which I don't quite get beyond Sue fits in a portion of my life that my wife knows she can't. Also, I don't keep many work related people that I would classify as friends or good friends. I usually keep my work and private life quite separate. However, this situation is slightly different than most of my other work so, I would think I'd get a little latitude since it does require closer collaboration.
No vagina is magical enough to make me cheat on my wife. I'm frequently around a lot of attractive women... I chose my wife & she chose me. I just want to make her more secure....
suggestions on how to make my wife more secure with the situation are welcome...
thank you blissful & almostrecovered. I'll try to keep my texting on the straight and narrow. Sue is very open to meeting my wife and it will happen if and when my wife wants it to.