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Old 12-02-2011, 12:21 PM   #1 (permalink)
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So, my husband would rather have anal sex with me than vaginal, first sign, secound found many different condom sizes in he drawer, 3rd likes to watch porn almost everyday of the week at the dirty book store, which I know frequents gays, Help me I just need to know the truth!!
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I'd say he's GAY, and not bi.

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Old 12-02-2011, 12:24 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Call me naive, but what does the different condom sizes have to do with it?

What kind of porn is he watching?
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Old 12-02-2011, 12:26 PM   #4 (permalink)
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None of those signs indicate whether he's gay, straight or bi.
Have you tried asking?
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Old 12-02-2011, 12:35 PM   #5 (permalink)
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So, my husband would rather have anal sex with me than vaginal, first sign,
I don't know if this means he is gay. My wife isn't into anal sex, but she seems to like me touching her there during oral and/or intercourse. I hope she doesn't think I am gay because I touch her there. If you really enjoy anal, then maybe he is doing it for you. If you are OK with anal, then maybe he does it because he prefers it. If you hate anal, then he isn't being very nice. None of these mean that he is 100% gay or bi sexual.

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secound found many different condom sizes in he drawer,
I have no idea about this one. I didn't even know there was many different sizes. I only thought there was normal and large. I have some of both sizes as I was curious about the different sizes. (I find they both fit, I am thinking large is for quite large as all condoms are quite elastic). Just this in itself doesn't mean he is gay or bi sexual.


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3rd likes to watch porn almost everyday of the week at the dirty book store, which I know frequents gays,
This doesn't sound good. Sounds like he has an issue if he is watching that much porn. Again though, doesn't mean he is gay or bisexual. I am sure straight people also watch porn at the dirty book store.

I think you need more evidence. Like browser history showing he is checking out men or gay web sites.
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How does he feel about musical theatre and Judy Garland?
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he does not use computer, I ment many different condom types when we do not use them,he said he was playing some pranks on co workers with the condoms, as for the book store I caught him last week and waited for him to come out, there was anthor guy there saying he sucks **** and has sex there, which is when I asked him if he was gay and he totally denies it!
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he does not use computer, I ment many different condom types when we do not use them,he said he was playing some pranks on co workers with the condoms, as for the book store I caught him last week and waited for him to come out, there was anthor guy there saying he sucks **** and has sex there, which is when I asked him if he was gay and he totally denies it!
I think there are more instances in your husbands behavior that you haven't mentioned here that would make you leap to him being gay. I think you already KNOW something but want it desperately to not be the case.

What else has been going on, if you don't mind me asking? do you no longer have vaginal sex or is it just once in a while? How bad is this porn addiction? What type of porn is it??
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was watching TV with a gay friend a few years back and we were watching some news program about religious groups trying to convert gay men into being straight and the camps they attend, etc. They interviewed some man who claimed he was gay and how the group changed him to stop sinning and now he is married and has three girls.

My friend then piped in and said, "I bet their names are Liza, Judy and Barbara!"
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The only porn he has not watched is is men on men but enjoys group sex videos the most, I had surgury on my anus due to having kids and i am not allowed to have anal sex due to possible problems that can occur from it. he continues to try to have anal. Once in awaile i did enjoy anal sex but i can no longer do it, as per DR. he also likes to recieve anal, and said he would have sex with a man if I wanted him to, that was about 5 years ago.
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and said he would have sex with a man if I wanted him to, that was about 5 years ago.
gee, that might be some important info


I like group porn and I'm not gay but I have no desire to have sex with a man to please my wife
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The only porn he has not watched is is men on men but enjoys group sex videos the most, I had surgury on my anus due to having kids and i am not allowed to have anal sex due to possible problems that can occur from it. he continues to try to have anal. Once in awaile i did enjoy anal sex but i can no longer do it, as per DR. he also likes to recieve anal, and said he would have sex with a man if I wanted him to, that was about 5 years ago.
It's not a good thing that he continually tries to do something that you can't do sexually. Shows a lack of respect for you as his spouse...not that he's gay or bi, but he's disrespectful to you and your condition.

And the sex with a man comment lends me to think he's gay. Not so much just the sex with a man statement, but how he's treated you sexually in general. The various condoms could be for other men since he likes receiving anal. He could very well be letting other men have sex with him at that place.

The bottom line is his behavior has you panicked and feeling uncomfortable. That should be communicated to him immediately.
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I do not know what the hell is going on if he would just tell me the truth I could move on. with or with out him
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I do not know what the hell is going on if he would just tell me the truth I could move on. with or with out him
You may never get him to admit anything. So then what will you do? All you have is what you've got right in front of you.
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that the thing he won't talk about it, I was very calm when I asked him, he says he loves me with all his heart, then why can't he tell me the truth.
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