im fed up with my wife what shall i do?
Hello ive been married for almost a year and ever since im not happy with our relationship.
im a very romantic affectionate guy, i like to say i love to my wife everyday and like to feel important but it seems im always last on her list.
it seems my wife is not interested or doesn't care about me, i went away on some business course abroad and i try to phone her everyday but when im talking to her its like shes always silent, i have to do all the talking, she sounds depressed and when she talks theres no energy or interest.
when im with her on some days i ask her lets go to some nice place we haven't seen before just the 2 of us, she says NO! unless other people go as a group then it will be fun, and shell go, but she doesnt like the idea of us as a couple thing its always someone has to be with us, i never get her alone.
when she talks to me its like you would talk to a friend type of thing, but when she speaks to other people mostly men its like shes flirting or the other guy is the husband and not me. she never jokes or talks with that much energy with me but only with other people.
when it comes to sex its like i have to beg her and i always have to make the move 1st, i have never had her start sex before and she shows very little interest in sex too, she doesnt want to try new things in sex it always has to be 1 position all the time.
its like she doesnt care about my feelings and she never goes out her way to impress me or make me feel special, nothing ever comes from her like lets go watch a movie, or lets have a romantic dinner in a restaurant.
its like she doesnt love me or care about me, i have addressed these issues to her and she said ive never heard so many complaints in my lifetime than i did since the marriage, she seems to think im picking on her rather than her not showing any effection etc.
today is my birthday and she forgot to say happy birthday to me, even though i reminded her a week ago, so forget birthday surprises or gifts. i feel im not important and theres no way to make her feel any different, her heart is so strong, she seems she cant bring her inner feelings out and show me, or she really doesnt love me? she shows no emotion ive never seen her sad/happpy with me she only shows emotion to her friends or other people but not me, why is she behaving different with me only?
please advice what to do cause im fed up, i dont want to break our marrage because i love her so much, but i wish she behaved how she does with other people i feel jealous of those people.