HELP im separated
Hello,
ive been married for 3 1/2 years. We've had our ups and downs but this is the first separation. In her previous relationship she was lied to and cheated on over and over again. Her ex also had another child with someone else while they were still together. He and my wife had 1 kid together as well. Well her ex committed suicide and thats where i come in.
We started seeing each other and i took the child in as my own after we married. Since then we have had another child. Just in the last few months she has started to change and its almost as though she has lost all feelings for me. Ive seen hints that sues living in the past. Some of her exs old cds and posters, etc. out. She knows that i know shes doing this. I just love and care for her so much that im thinking thats where her love is right now and she cant give it to me. Im thinking its a phase and she'll eventually be back to her old self. I know deep down that she still cares about me because we have been through so much together. Right now she is living at our home with the kids. I go out and visit them and help with the boys. Last night I finally came out and told her that we need to sit down and figure out what to do with the house, furniture, etc. I wanted to sit down and do it sometime this week. She said no its too early.
What does that mean? I didn't really wanna just bring it out that way but living like this is killing me. Im in no way perfect and im willing to work on whatever i need to. It just kills me to see her this way. I feel shes in deep depression. She even admitted that maybe she is but doesnt feel she needs to get on any meds yet. Im staying hopeful that this doesnt end in divorce. She always calls about different things for the house so that makes me feel like it may work. The oldest boy has a birthday coming up and we've talked about getting him a trampoline so maybe thats a good sign as well.
Any suggestions or opinions would help.
Thanks
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