Im am hurting in my relationship, but my partner just refuses to see it
I wouldn't usually be as open as this with my problems but I am not really sure where to turn or what to do. I have been living with my partner for 2 years now and we are currently in the process of planning our wedding. I know that we both love each other, but I am starting to wonder if "loving someone else" means the same to both of us.
I feel like the way that I love her is by trying to communicate with her and show her that I love her with methods that don't involve spending money. I try to cook her dinners, tell her my feelings and take care of her emotionally. Her way of loving involves buying things, helping me with school and sending me texts that say "I love you." Not that those texts shouldn't mean anything, but they have started to feel like cookie cutter messages that never have much more meaning than the immediate thought. I am feeling emotionally neglected and whenever I try to tell her my feelings, she usually just gets frustrated, asks me to stop telling her she is doing this wrong and that I'm never happy. She says that I always just want more from her. I feel like all I want is for her to take an interest in what is going on inside of me and my feelings. I have told her this, but nothing seems to change. Is this a sign that we are not compatible? I just don't know what to do because I am hurting inside and I want nothing more than to figure out how to make this love last. When things are good, they are great and I love her with all my heart. She is an amazing woman, but has emotionally distant sometimes. Can anyone help me?