Unconditional love,
if it weren’t for those two words together, the Hallmark Channel would have nothing to show, for that matter Hallmark Cards would be virtual empty less the section on Get well, don’t die and Blessing's on missing your period.
On the surface one would think that it came out of the Renaissance period or more to the point a biblical passage but neither is true as best as i understand it in research, it was the creation of Psychoanalyst Erich Fromm who was actually noting self-love as the basis for that concept, that we should have unconditional love for oneself, not for others, but it was adopted as such during the 60’s and “Free Love” arena…from there it spread into cards, books, movies (aka “love story”) and the internet…..i am not suggesting there is an expiration date for love, but at the same time when you read those words from posters saying regardless of what their spouse did i love them unconditionally, i just want to throw up….maybe i am a cynic (no question about that) maybe i am not the romantic type (debatable), but mostly i am a rationalist, and as such i would question how far does unconditional love go, i would suggest there is a point of demarcation, one affair?, a dozen affairs? murder? Jay walking?
But as some point unconditional love becomes blind faith in stupidity, and someone is left holding the bag and its usually the person that has more vested in the relationship than the other.
Now, let me place this caveat or more apply put disclaimer.
i am excluding parents, children, grand children, pets, and Deities from the above concept, for sake of argument not necessarily because i believe that either. Let’s focus on spouse or significant other.
if it weren’t for those two words together, the Hallmark Channel would have nothing to show, for that matter Hallmark Cards would be virtual empty less the section on Get well, don’t die and Blessing's on missing your period.
On the surface one would think that it came out of the Renaissance period or more to the point a biblical passage but neither is true as best as i understand it in research, it was the creation of Psychoanalyst Erich Fromm who was actually noting self-love as the basis for that concept, that we should have unconditional love for oneself, not for others, but it was adopted as such during the 60’s and “Free Love” arena…from there it spread into cards, books, movies (aka “love story”) and the internet…..i am not suggesting there is an expiration date for love, but at the same time when you read those words from posters saying regardless of what their spouse did i love them unconditionally, i just want to throw up….maybe i am a cynic (no question about that) maybe i am not the romantic type (debatable), but mostly i am a rationalist, and as such i would question how far does unconditional love go, i would suggest there is a point of demarcation, one affair?, a dozen affairs? murder? Jay walking?
But as some point unconditional love becomes blind faith in stupidity, and someone is left holding the bag and its usually the person that has more vested in the relationship than the other.
Now, let me place this caveat or more apply put disclaimer.
i am excluding parents, children, grand children, pets, and Deities from the above concept, for sake of argument not necessarily because i believe that either. Let’s focus on spouse or significant other.